Do you not like doing this?

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Do you feel a bit embarresed when having to hug or cuddle your parents or siblings? For me personally it would just feel awkward cuddling up to my mother or farther.

The last time i showed any kind of affection like that to my parents was when i was 16 and even then it was not proper. Is this an autistic kind of thing? I mean if i wanted to cuddle up and show affection to my parents i would but i just don't want to becuase its embarresing for me and a bit babyish. I can tell that my farther looks dissapointed when i move away from him when he wants to cuddle me and he did gesture it once when i was 17 or 18 as well but i just said "No i do not want to hug"

When i was a child of course i used to cuddle up with my parents. Don't get me wrong as well i do LIKE cuddling but just with my parents or even brother.

I am 21 as well so maybe i have grown out of that type of behaviour

I have never been able to cuddle with my parents. I never wanted to. There was a reason why, a reason people might not realize. It was because I could smell something that made me uncomfortable and I just wanted to squirm away. When relatives tried to kiss me on the cheek, the reason I didn't like it was because their lips were moist and I couldn't stand the feeling of the moisture lingering on my cheek. It put me in a meltdown type mood, though not as intense as an actual meltdown.
I was resented because of this, but I could not articulate the real reasons I didn't like being cuddled or kissed on the cheek. People took it personally, though, and they thought I was expressing dislike toward them when that was far from true. If only we knew how to express the real reason why we don't like something. It would save a lot of misunderstanding. Their frustration made me more reluctant to talk about it and be able to articulate the real reason I was running and squirming away.
Even these days I don't really like to kiss and barely like to hug. Now, it's just a matter of not being accustomed to it and feeling a bit awkward about it, even though there is one odor I am particularly adversed to and am so repelled by it, I will draw back when encountering it. If I smell that odor on someone who wants to hug me, I have to hold my breathe and make it as quick as I can
It can be so bad, it triggers my gagging reflex, so I have to hurry.
I love cuddling my dog and cat, though, unless the dog has an odor. Then, I bathe him in a shampoo with an scent I like and cuddle him after.
I am very sensitive to foul odors.

Yeah I am very sensitive to foul odours like 'farts' etc......... I remember i used to like cuddling my ex gilfriend well of course untill she made a bad smell. Also like you i don't like being kissed because of the moist feeling and my girlfriend took that VERY personally which is why she finished with me

It's not flatulence as much as it's body odors and breathe odors. Those do me in. It's nothing personal, they are just very verrrry strong smelling to me.
Some people cannot handle perfumes, I have the same problem with breathe and body odors. It's not meant to be an insult, saying people smell bad. It's an actual sensitivity I have to those particular odors.
The problem is, I can't open up to people about it, (I have before so I know the reaction.) They really tend to despise it. They think I am insulting them, so, if I encounter that particular odor, which I don't encounter on most people, just one a few here and there, I have to hold my breathe and my tongue and hurry away.

yeah know what you mean about body odour it can be strong smelling.

LOL i always wondered though to people with aspergers do farts smell worse than they would to NT people?

Actually, I can handle the smell of flatulence. It doesn't have the same effect on me. I really do think it is a sensitivity to fumes a certain bacteria releases when it respirates.

I personally HATE the smell of flatulence. I wish humans did not fart

What causes the flatulence is indigestion, food that is too stale or a intestinal virus. Onions give me really bad flatulence. I either don't eat them at all or a very small amount.
The key to avoiding flatulence is to watch the diet and use plenty of Purell or Germ X on the hands.

Well I can't avoid other peoples flatulence

You might be able to suggest to others how to keep flatulence from occurring. I, personally, find it very uncomfortable, that bloated feeling. Maybe others feel the same way and would like to know how they can keep from experiencing it, too? I try my best to prevent it. I don't buy that it is completely natural. Maybe an occasional fart is, but the heavy duty flatulence resulting from eating something that's too stale or doesn't agree with me, or the flatulence that comes from having an intestinal bug should be prevented, imo, whenever possible.

Yeah. At 29 I still go all stiff when either of my sisters or my mom gives me a hug. My dad isn't a hugging kinda guy and I think he is probably aspie himself. I am much better with hugs from my mom because she tells me she wants a hug and I hug her, but my sisters will come up to me and hug me when I am not ready for it.
It has been this way for as long as I can remember. Occasionally I would want to snuggle next to my mom on the couch when I was young (up through grade school), but didn't like having an arm wrapped around me unless I was under a blanket first.
It is not an embarrassment thing for my, I just start thinking about how long are you supposed to hug, how tight should you squeeze, am I leaning on the other person, am I losing my balance, what did I start to rock sideways? Basically not at ease during the whole hugging process.

My mother is very touchy. She's always trying to grab me, kiss or hug me, and it makes me cringe. I thought that was because I don't like to be touched, and I don't like displays of emotion. My dad rarely touches me, and when he does he's play-fighting trying to pinch me or whatever. I can take that a lot better than my mother's touchiness. If anyone else tries to touch me I hit the roof.

i use to cuddle and snuggle with my parents a lot as a kid.
now i can't stand hugs or anything.
i don't even like "light touch". if i'm in a car with you, and just the tip of my elbow is touching you. . .it drives me nuts.

then you've got my 5 year old niece.
lol, i'm so not a lovey dovey guy. . .except with her. lol she brings it out in me! i could sit and snuggle with her for just about the rest of my life and die happy. i just can't get enough cuddling with her! she's my baby.