Does anyone want to be my autisitc roomate?

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Yes, its come to this. I'm a very easy going guy with lots of friendship potential, i also know how to clean and not get the s attention

I live in flagstaff arizona. wich if i do say so myself is a charming little town with very nice cold winters and hot summers. So if you are intrested, and having a hard time to find a place to live I'm free on march 1st

Too bad you don't live in Japan. I'm gonna need a new roommate soon too!

Just curious...have you lived with an aspie before? I, by chance, ended up living with an aspie/high functioning autie (got put together randomly in a college dorm) and it didn't go well at all. But that was just my experience. All aspies are different and living in an apartment/house would be different than a dorm. I just didn't have a good experience with it.

What happened? I think I'm a good roommate. Though I also have some OCPD on top of probable AS, so everything has to be very neat and organized for me. I couldn't live with a very messy person!

I'm pretty sure I'm OCPD too, actually. If I'm with a messy person I'll end up organizing their things if they won't

It was mostly the lack of empathy and poor social skills. I have better social skills/empathy than her, but more sensory stuff and anxiety so we just didn't work well together. It was just little things that piled up, like her answering a phone call at 7am and talking really loudly for a long time and not thinking to take her call into the hallway. She had a weird thing about locking the doors (like, locking me out when I went to take a shower then leaving our room). There were other things like that which I won't go into, but basically it was that I didn't want to sit down and talk through every little thing and why it was socially inappropriate, etc. I tried to talk to her about one or two things and she would respond with something totally unrelated. I moved in with a friend so all is good now.

That doesn't sound like fun. How did you get back in your room in that situation? It would have been embarrassing. Were your clothes with you in the bathroom?

No, I had to walk around in a towel. I would have to knock on RA's doors to get them to let me back in my room. In one instance I had to get a male RA (I was in a coed dorm) that I didn't know to let me in my room when I just had a towel...it was kind of awkward.

No, i've never lived with anyone who was autistic other than myself. even though i'm a obnoxious loud mouth online i'm almost always very quiet irl. I have lived with roomates before and that was just awful, but those people were all either on smack or completley crazy

I'd love to live in japan. its one of my favorite countrys
but i wouldnt even know how to get there, I can see my executive dysfunction having a field day with any plans

My mother offerd for me to live with her but I cant stand the person shes married too. so theres no way thats happening.

Funny, my freshman year I had a similarly bad experience with an aspie/high functioning autie for a roomate. The experience was so bad that for the last 2 and a half years I've been living in a dorm room by myself.

To astaut, that sounds like a pretty crap situation you were in! Of course all Aspies are different. I definitely would have more respect for the person I was living with though!

Are you saying that an autistic roommate would be your preference? Is it because you think you'd be more simpatico with such a person, as though you were looking in the mirror? I find that I'm usually drawn to people who are different from me, who have social skills that complement my lack of them. To my way of thinking, two socially inept people living together is like the blind leading the blind.

Yes that is what i'm saying. I like people who are like me and think i'd get along great with another autistic. unless of course they like smearing thier boogers on the walls or something and then probably not. i'm not worried about being social

Would you mind elaborating a little bit on this "executive dysfunction?" That's an example of jargon I've heard thrown around from time to time that I'm not sure I totally grasp. Give some examples.

Believe it or not, blind people teachng each other how to navigate the world generally works better than a sighted person who has never had to learn all the tricks blind people use to figure out their environment.

And if it weren't for autistic people, I'd possibly never have learned how to put words to my thoughts instead of just throw out words that sounded right.

Thing is, people who find something second nature are sometimes the worst teachers. If skill levels were numbered, such people would have started ought at level eight, moved on to level 10, and not even been aware levels below 6 existed. However, people who started at level one have a better chance of teaching a person at level one how to climb upward because they know the terrain.

Basically, i can barely wipe my own butt without first having to force myself to do it. the microwave is my best friend, etc.

Ok, i'll be serious now sorry. Well i have a hard time "functioning" on a higher level. like making plans that adults usually make and execute them

no offense but other than that unusual case of two aspies getting married and living the aspie lifestyle together, I don't think I would be compatible with another of the same me.