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I thought I'd just say a few recommendations, even though I know there are threads for that kind of thing around. These have worked for me, and others can add if they so choose. If they don't sound useful to you, don't use them. I bet they sound like awful ideas to some.

1. Use earplugs whenever possible. Wear your hair long enough so that others cannot see you're wearing them. It is much easier to concentrate when you don't have to worry about silly sounds that don't matter, like the sound of a cabinet or door opening and closing, et cetera.

2. If male, use a chamberpot. This will save you time and energy on visits to the bathroom. I've used a gallon "Carlo Rossi" wine jug in an apartment where the bathroom is downstairs for years now, and it has worked.

3. Invest in a pair of sunglasses. You will be able to wear them for at least some of the year without others thinking you are blind. This way people won't know when you're looking at them, or better yet, won't know when you are not.

4. Do not feel compelled to make eye contact with others just because it's a socially accepted custom. Only do so when you are comfortable with it. Otherwise, you'll just confuse yourself by the bizarreness of their expressions, and confuse them by your lack of mirroring their facial expressions back at them (aspies and autistic people tend to have a "dead stare" which puts people off).

That's all for now. Thanks for reading.

I like 4. A little grossed out by 2 and suspicious by 3.
Wouldn't it be better to wear sunglasses for sensory issues?

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The chamberpot must just have to do with my own idiosyncrasy, and having a love of efficiency and general laziness about getting up in the night. Add to this that for whatever reason I often have to pee several times in the night (more if stressed out). I can't see why anyone who is able wouldn't want to use one. They were invented and kept in use so long ago that it only makes sense (not before bathrooms, but when the bedrooms were far away from the bathrooms). Yes, if you're fortunate to live alone and/or right next to the bathroom, then it makes little sense. Sorry to spoil Carlo Rossi for you, Dantac, but drinking is bad for your health after all

Sunglasses would work for sensory issues as well, of course. I just find that my own sensory issues are mostly sound-related, thus the ear plugs suggestion. On this subject -- how well do noise cancelling head-sets work? I've been living with a person for a while now who is nocturnal (I'm diurnal), and even with a combined 65 dB or so of noise-suppression (ear plugs and ear muffs) I can still hear movement in the night. It takes serious willpower (and sometimes sleep aids) to sleep through it all. I'm wondering if some added noise-cancelling sound waves would do the trick.