How do you get what you need?

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I'm really awful at defending what I need. I feel so much pressure (coming from myself mainly) to act "normal" and like everything is fine. Over the years this has led my partner to believe that I am fine and that I just "think differently" and that there is no struggle.

I struggle every single day.

What I need (but don't get) is to spend a lot of time alone or else it becomes harder and harder for me to function.

There are days when I find it too hard to speak and all I want is to be silent and not spoken to.

I don't know how to get these things without letting people down. And having been only recently diagnosed, without them thinking I am "suddenly acting autistic". The needs have always been there- I'm just so tired of fighting my instincts. I am so burnt out.

I get a lot of grief for wanting to be left alone, but I just ignore it and don't worry about it. It isn't really something I care about.

I know what you mean about finding it hard to get your needs met after struggling along for so long.

I've only recently been diagnosed too and although I feel highly motivated to use my new awareness to help me move forward, I also find myself feeling the need to prove my diagnosis to the few people who havn't seen my struggle. So for me, I'm worried that trying to act more normal will make others think I've not been diagnosed correctly. How stupid -LOL

As for advice, perhaps you could point out the link between not having time alone etc and burnout that has occurred in the past or is occurring now. If the burnout isn't obvious or behavioural then point out how uncomfortable you feel.

i go to shop

With cold hard cash, because my needs are expensive.

I usually dont get what i need. wich is a good time in bed,