Why might it be harder for us?

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Why might adults and children who are on the spectrum be predisposed too agression compared too an NT?

I am NOT saying this is true for everyone with aspergers but why do you think we find it hard too deal with anger and agression?

My eyes are a mixture of brown and green so maybe that is why i have anger problems becuase of the green in my eye?

The simple explanation is autistics easily get flooded and overwhelmed by external stimuli. Once the threshold into excess has been crossed, we either shut down, melt down or lash out.




Wah? Is the the Dr. Bruce Banner effect?

This is why I don't call Autism a blessing. How can struggling through life and lack of coping skills be a blessing? I wouldn't mind if you get one life after another, but we don't. This is my only life I'll ever get and yet look at me.

Yes. I tend to experience a lot more stimuli than normal people and it means my stress level is usually higher than theirs.

I have a fairly high threshold for stress, higher than that of most normal people.

Back in school, I remember a time when I thought it was hilarious when classmates of my English class (average age 18-20) and the teacher got worked up about a particularly noisy bird outside. When the bird did not stop after merely 5 minutes, most people had moved from semi-amused comments about the animal on to displaying signs of aggression.

The bird was adding to my stress level too. But it did so no more or less than the noises of breathing, of impatient students tapping the table or their legs, the constant rustles of clothes, papers and books, the scratches of pens moving on papers, the faint buzzing sound of the lights above, occasional sneezes, coughs, loud inhales, clicks and clanks of pens, bags, mobile phones, objects clashing against each other in pockets and pencil cases, the teacher's loud steps, speech irregularities in all people present, whispers, faint laughs, conversations and screams from the yard, leaves rustling in front of the window, occasional dipping carrying over from the sink...

Anyway, class had to be paused because of the tweeting then.

Back then I didn't understand and thought: What's the problem with one ickle little birdie tweeting a little somewhere high up in a tree outside? You're all producing noise much worse than that and I notice every day!

My higher threshold for stress does not mean that I can keep my calm always. Problem is, I also experience a lot more stressors than most normal people. I end up going beyond my tolerable stress levels regularly. Aggression is one out of several possible manifestations.

Besides that, there are more possible links between ASD and aggression or between co-morbids of ASDs and aggression, as far as I'm concerned. I wrote this much though and need to take a break now.

The teacher could have AS and so got overwhelmed by bird tweeting.

I have high tolerance for things I like. When I am doing something I'm interested in I can take more stress levels but if I am doing something I don't like I get stressed out easy. Infact I don't get stressed out when I am doing something I like at all i think.

It's a lot easier to handle anger and stress if you know what you are angry about and how to possibly deal with it. It's the fear that things won't change that makes people REALLY angry.

Some things that make you stressed are impossible too avoid though.

Well, if you accept that they can't be avoided, you can't be mad at yourself for not avoiding them. This is easier said than done, but not impossible to do. The best way to do it is to have your main focus on something else, like moving forward. If your main focus is the here and now, then everything bad that happens will piss you off.

Lack of emotional regulation. Limbic system not working at its best compared to NT's.
Other people with disorders like ADHD and Bipolar have it too.

And with all our stresses combined that makes one very angry person who has little control over their emotions.

As for me I have extreme sensitivity to noise and light. Some days I feel uncomfortable in my own clothes and skin. I hate change and every time it happens it just adds to my already building pile of stress.
And then someone says something that is insulting to me.
And I can't get away from this person.
And the light is bright.
And I need to be alone but can't.
And then this stuff keeps happening and people won't leave you alone so you eventually blow.

According to Tony Atwood, not only do aspies have the overstimuation effect, some aspies have impaired processing of anger (or other emotions) that leads to them being at extremes.

While an NT would have a scale of 1-10 for anger, some aspies might have 1, 2, 9, 10. If something would trigger a 3, it triggers a 9, because that's the next number after 2. I don't really understand it really well, but it was in The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome.