Hey All. Weird Obsession/Rigid Thinking

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Back to when I worked part time at a grocery store. I used to engage in deabtes with my supervisor. He beat me a few times I admit and vice versa. Now here's where the problems begin in my mind: I try and keep score (I left in Sept 2009) and it drives me mad

Is this a normal reaction in Aspies' thinking? I'm almost too embarassed to bring it up with my therapist. Honest replies please. Thx. Similar threads on wrongplanet have pointed to rigid thinking.

Just another example - recently a woman I went to grade school with posted a 3rd grade class picture on Facebook. Everyone was all excited and reconnecting and recollecting. My problem - here I am 34 years later and I am still hurt by the fight I had with her during recess. I remember every word, every action and the feelings it caused clear as day. Logic tells me I should have let go of this ages ago but that first glimpse of her message and those pictures took me right back to that day.

From what I understand, this is fairly common for Aspies - being able to recall negatives, inequities or injustices for a lifetime. Either way, I'm sure your therapist will be interested to hear about it. I would never admit to anyone outloud what I just typed above because I know how crazy it sounds but somehow I don't feel so bad about myself knowing there is a reason for not being able to resolve my old emotional wounds like everybody else.

I'm not sure I'm quite on track here, but here's something I've noticed.

When I have a debate with someone, sometimes they'll subtly make presumptions about my thinking/logic that aren't true or succumb to logically fallacious reasoning and incorporate that bias into their response. I don't notice it because I assume they must be as coldly logically as I am. I then get cornered, confused, and get defeated, so to speak.

I've picked up on that but when I actually try to keep things rigid and logical the whole conversation just... doesn't work. Maybe people don't like being corrected. Or I'm bad at communicating.