Why are people mean to those with ASD/AS for no reason

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I am 17 male with ASD/AS and I don't know why but people are mean to me for no reason and I don't know why they are like that. I am often nice and I am not mean to anyone else but other people pick on me and say to me mean things and I am just trying to be nice to them. I have many people be mean to me for no reason even when I did nothing wrong. Many people think that I have some mental problem because they would always say to me that I was slow or that I am a idiot or something. Like people would say to me when I take a while to respond to them and they would say to me "Dude your so slow" or "Dude your such an idiot" or they would say to me " Im so smarter than you" and I don't know why they keep saying this to me but I wonder if I got some mental problem that I don't know about. I also have a cooking group awhile ago where people in that group thought that I was ret*d and they wouldnt let me use the knife becasue they thought that I would cut my self. I also have a active immagination so other people think that when I don't respond to them in time they think that I am slow or an idiot for not responding. But other times I have a problem where I think people are being nice to me when really they are just being mean to me and I can't tell the diffrence. I want to know how can I make people be nicer to me? Sorry if I wrote this terribly. I had no idea how I was going to write this.

Because we fall into the Uncanny Valley.

They do it to make themselves feel better about themselves. They are some of the most insecure people around and look at you and think to themselves "At least I am not slow". I would ignore these people. You don't want to be friends with them. Look for others who look approachable. My daughter was not diagnosed yet and she became fast friends with a boy who had moderate autism. The teacher said they saw each other across the room and just headed towards each other. He was non verbal but started talking to her. If it is true that people of the spectrum can sense each other, than you will know when someone is worth talking to.

Some of it you could be projecting onto other people, on the other hand people can be very judgmental. I would say try not to worry about what people think so much about you. Try to cultivate self confidence and overcompensate when necessary.

We are just fair game for them.

Because we piss them off.

Because they're idiots! Are you in school? Sigh...reason I don't send my awesome son to school...kids are just freaking amazing...and the parents even worse...the only people, even adults I seem to get along with now are people with AS/ASD of some type...the NTs honestly drive me up a wall...unless it's an NT that works with kids with ASD...

Good luck...next time tell them to take a hike!

We piss them off and they want to wipe us off the face of the Earth. I can see them working for Autism Speaks many years from now.

Sometimes because they are jerks. Other times because we have failed to live up to social norms and they see us as if we are wearing a diaper on our heads. Put ten people in a room and they may not pick a leader, but they'll always pick someone to hate. If you make it easy for them, they'll pick you.

You can't do anything about the first case. The second case can be mitigated.