How to improve my situational awareness?

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I'm 17 and a junior and sometimes I find my self embarrassing my self because some time I blurt out random things. I have ASD and I often when I see someone in a library that I know I may yell to get their attention and other people around me will tell me to be quiet. I feel so embarrassed by this. I often feel like I have a a give imagination and so I am always thinking about something that is going to distract me a I would think about spongebob or something while someone is talking to me so I seem very distant to other people. I have been told I'm slow or lazy because that is what I feel like. I always feel like I got a headache and that I am very not self aware of what is going on. I often dose off into my own world and that I seem to be in my own imagination. Am I the only one that has this problem. I made so many people mad at me because of this and I just frustrate them. I often walk around and not consider what I do may offend people and I will just seem lazy at times

I used to doze off a lot in class and in conversations. I still struggle to pay attention.

It is embarrassing making mistakes but we have them to learn from them. I've been told to shush in a library, now I know that it is the no.1 rule in a library. You just need to become accustomed to some rules like that. Like many years ago I learnt that you have to wear a jacket, closed shoes and no hat in an RSL club. When I was really young I refused to take my hat off because I never did that, but I know now what the dress code is in those places.
I'm still pretty awkward and oblivious to certain rules and social rules. People don't think of me when they look at me. I dress in the same silly clothes and am a nerdy sci fi fan. I join in on conversations to spit out a fact. I often say stupid things and can barely even say my words clearly, which is frustrating but it's the way it is. My biggest issue is that people underestimate my issues but again, I have to deal with it.

What helps me is to find my strengths and put more focus on them. As for me I write and as a kid I used to draw a lot. Find something to take your mind off all the negative things people say or how they make you feel. We all have a special skill. A good day of writing gives me a really good high, or just satisfaction. I hope you can find something like to make you feel better.

Sometimes one of the hardest things to do is to listen to someone who's talking about something you're not interested in. It's kind of like hearing one song on the radio and wishing it were a different one, so you 'turn up' the volume of the song in your head to drown out the real song. As an adult, you're going to be forced to listen to people talk about things you don't care about a LOT. And since these people will be your professors, bosses and friends, you don't get to tell them you're not interested in what they're saying. All I can tell you is to try to find SOMETHING in what they're saying to you that you find interesting, or ask questions about it so that they talk more about an interesting thing about it.

I also would just do stuff without realizing what I just done and that would anger people and tell me to be more aware of my surroundings and that would just frustrate me every time this happened.

See a neurologist and get neurofeedback. It's when he/she monitors your brain waves while you watch something on a computer screen. It helps with Aspie traits.