Pinky fingers

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Does anyone have the strange occurrence of needing or wanting their pinky fingers or any of their fingers held.

I have slightly bent pinky fingers (clinodactly) and it calms me a lot when people hold my pinky fingers for me. Sometimes my other fingers. It feels psychological? Like a trust thing. The pressure on my fingers feels great. And the thought of my pinky being “corrected” feels great too.

I used to have a fear of my fingers breaking so I tried exposure therapy by having people randomly touch my hands and fingers to desensitize myself and normalize the sensation of other people touching my hands. Success! I don’t flinch nearly as much anymore.

I don't do that, but it sounds to me from your description like it's a form of stimming.

Does it not work when you hold your own pinky fingers? It has to be someone else?

I grab my own fingers all the time. Especially my pinky fingers. I rub or I tug so it may just be a stim. Not knowing anyone with this particular stim is what makes me feel so strange.

I feel weird talking about my pinky fingers extensively so I don’t really talk about it with people unless they’re really close to me. I took it as a severe form of my anxiety because when I googled it “finger symptoms” is what I would come across and that’s the best description for it. Especially since I do it when I’m really anxious like if I smoke (pot) I’m like that about rubbing my knees as well or really like having someone put pressure on my knees.

I have PTSD. And a partner of mine pointed out that hands, collar bone and knees are intimate parts of the body so maybe the uncomfortable feeling I had of those places being touched could be a flight reflex.

Nothing ever feels like the right answer, tbh. I enjoy hyperfixating on it tho (sarcasm).