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Chickenbird
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31 Mar 2011, 2:21 pm

Hope this isn't a stupid question, but if you are an aspie, and someone seems to be bullying you and putting you down all the time, does this mean that the other person is definitely not an aspie? Or is it irrelevant?

The person in question definitely has neurological differences, trouble with memory, executive disfunction and so on and their 12y old son is an aspie in their opinion, and in mine (he's very nice) , but I don't think this person is an aspie. At the moment I think they are just mean.


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31 Mar 2011, 2:29 pm

I have no idea. I might just think they have their own issues and they have to project them onto me. I would think they aren't happy with themselves and they have low self esteem so they must put me down to make themselves feel better. That is only if it's obvious, if it's not, I might just think they are mean.

I think rather or not they are aspie is irrelevant. Aspies can put other aspies down for their AS symptoms.



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31 Mar 2011, 9:09 pm

Chickenbird wrote:
Hope this isn't a stupid question, but if you are an aspie, and someone seems to be bullying you and putting you down all the time, does this mean that the other person is definitely not an aspie? Or is it irrelevant?

The person in question definitely has neurological differences, trouble with memory, executive disfunction and so on and their 12y old son is an aspie in their opinion, and in mine (he's very nice) , but I don't think this person is an aspie. At the moment I think they are just mean.


It doesn't mean they're definitely not an aspie. There are plenty of autistic bullies. In fact, some of the most persistent and sadistic bullies I've ever met have been autistic. Because not only are they mean, but they have perseveration on their side. One such person actually seems to perseverate on bullying people -- switching targets every few years. Sad, really, but very real, and definitely autistic.


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