Therapist asked me to make a list of places to meet people

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JeremyNJ1984
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05 Apr 2011, 8:41 am

Frankly...I am drawing a blank....so far I have Museums, Sports events...but I dont want to go to a bar..so not sure where else??? any thoughts???

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05 Apr 2011, 8:48 am

Festivals, shopping malls, parties, presentations, talk groups, speed dating, outside, conventions, sportclubs, disco's, cultural events.

You want more?

My advice: Common interests make a talk.

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05 Apr 2011, 8:49 am

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05 Apr 2011, 8:52 am

Wallourdes wrote:

Festivals, shopping malls, parties, presentations, talk groups, speed dating, outside, conventions, sportclubs, disco's, cultural events.

You want more?

My advice: Common interests make a talk.

Sounds easy on paper..but I go to all of those...except parties...and it hasn't helped me there in the past....

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05 Apr 2011, 9:13 am

JeremyNJ1984 wrote:

Wallourdes wrote:

Festivals, shopping malls, parties, presentations, talk groups, speed dating, outside, conventions, sportclubs, disco's, cultural events.

You want more?

My advice: Common interests make a talk.

Sounds easy on paper..but I go to all of those...except parties...and it hasn't helped me there in the past....

Then location isn't the issue tehn, you should take on other issues, self-esteem maybe? Communication skills? Dare? Maybe someone to go with to those events?

The fish ain't gonna jump into the net themselves, so make a start yourself.
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05 Apr 2011, 9:14 am

May I ask why your therapist wants you to make this list?

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05 Apr 2011, 9:18 am

wefunction wrote:

May I ask why your therapist wants you to make this list?

To try and get me to become more social...find outlets for socializing and finding friends. I have a job and drive...but somehow he thinks that because im lacking on social skills, its making me sad...which it isnt...

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05 Apr 2011, 9:19 am

Wallourdes wrote:

JeremyNJ1984 wrote:

Wallourdes wrote:

Festivals, shopping malls, parties, presentations, talk groups, speed dating, outside, conventions, sportclubs, disco's, cultural events.

You want more?

My advice: Common interests make a talk.

Sounds easy on paper..but I go to all of those...except parties...and it hasn't helped me there in the past....

I dont really have someone to go with on those events...the purpose is to get me to go out more and make friends...but its the making friends part which he knows as iv told him, is the most difficult part.

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05 Apr 2011, 9:25 am

JeremyNJ1984 wrote:

Wallourdes wrote:

JeremyNJ1984 wrote:

Wallourdes wrote:

Festivals, shopping malls, parties, presentations, talk groups, speed dating, outside, conventions, sportclubs, disco's, cultural events.

You want more?

My advice: Common interests make a talk.

Sounds easy on paper..but I go to all of those...except parties...and it hasn't helped me there in the past....

But, do you want to make friends?
If so, you might want to try social trainings instead of going to places.

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05 Apr 2011, 10:11 am

JeremyNJ1984 wrote:

wefunction wrote:

May I ask why your therapist wants you to make this list?

Oh okay. I wasn't sure if it was to hook up with people for dating or just to meet people for friends.

I'd really want to delve into your hobbies. You love sports and baseball season is starting. So, sports bars is a good one. You don't really want to meet people in bars but when everybody's just watching the game and having a beer, it's different.

Are there other things you like to do? For example, I go Geocaching. This allows me to meet people in local organized groups, at special Events, by chance on the geocaching trail, and planned get-together informal event. Think about how your hobbies can be used to branch out.

You aren't really going to meet people at museums unless you're taking one of their backroom community classes. Although, doing that wouldn't be a bad idea if you like creating art and feel comfortable encouraging other people with their art. If you believe in God, you might be able to find a church that has a solid, accepting congregation. That is a tremendous option for building socialization. Unfortunately, even if you do believe in God, finding a good church is hit or miss. There's so much hate going around some places.

What other hobbies do you have besides watching sports? Do you like playing sports? What else do you like to do?

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05 Apr 2011, 9:03 pm

I really don't think such a list could help anybody.

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05 Apr 2011, 9:26 pm

people that are good at talking to people meet people everywhere

aspies, i have no clue

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05 Apr 2011, 9:27 pm

JeremyNJ1984 wrote:

wefunction wrote:

May I ask why your therapist wants you to make this list?

To try and get me to become more social...find outlets for socializing and finding friends. I have a job and drive...but somehow he thinks that because im lacking on social skills, its making me sad...which it isnt...

It's like they really don't get it. Having a job is plenty of socialization for me, and I imagine you too, but yet nobody seems to ever understand that.

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05 Apr 2011, 9:28 pm

What? We're not people here at Wrong Planet?

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05 Apr 2011, 9:37 pm

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What? We're not people here at Wrong Planet?

Damn! He figured out we're all bots. So much for that.

Nevermind, I see what you did there.

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06 Apr 2011, 7:37 am

wavefreak58 wrote:

What? We're not people here at Wrong Planet?

Ha!...unfortunatly some people think conversing over message boards doesn't count.

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