Being insulted at work

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I've posted a couple of rants about things that happened to me at work before, but those were different jobs. Right now I'm working somewhere else where I'm about to hit the 4-month-mark which will be a personal best for me. Still not sure whether that has me more optimistic or depressed but anyway..

Here's the thing. I've been off the autism diet due to my own neglect for some time and so now I'm back to my old defective aspie self (I plan to start it again tomorrow but it takes a looong time to start to kick in). Even though I feel like I'm doing nothing differently from before I start to get the "lol you're so quiet hurrhurr!" comments again so apparently *something* has changed?? It probably wouldn't be so bad if not for this one really obnixious guy there that works with me (there's only 6 of us there total) who seems like he gets really obsessed with pointing it out for no reason several times a day. This just started happening randomly last week and ever since then he's stuck with it and keeps getting more and more outspoken about it. I think most people know what I mean, when they get real condescending almost as if being quiet must mean you're also stupid, or they start to ask you really simple pointless questions about you as if they're doing you a favor by allowing you the privilege of starting a conversation that you must have been too "afraid" to start yourself.

Today came some of the worst. Like when the remote possibility of him ending up somewhere else was mentioned by another coworker he says "well I would miss (name) and (name) too much." After a brief pause he continues, "I WOULD miss Io too, if only he'd SAY something once in a while." Also once he implied that something at a certain table was out of order because of me and I responded back at him so he laughs "Oh! He finally talks when someone accuses him of something! Maybe I'll keep accusing him of stuff just to actually hear him talk." Several times out of nowhere he also throws in the same old "Hey don't talk too much there Io" and that one in particular is really getting old. And of course this is always in front of everybody else too, but at least they don't really take much notice of it. The crazy thing is I do talk to people there and one guy is actually just as quiet if not more so than I am, so I don't know why he suddenly just chose to single me out. I'm not really sure if there's anything I can do here. If I really said what I wanted to in reply I'd probably be out of a job pretty quick since the guy is a bit above me (we work the same hours but technically he's a "real" employee while I'm a temp). If I talk then each time it's "LOL you actually talked!" even though he's too dumb to realize he's contradicting himself with this; if I just ignore the comments then yeah obviously that doesn't help either. Honestly I felt like I was at my breaking point when I got home today but I don't even understand what this numbskull is even trying to accomplish or why he's so obsessed with the idea even though nobody else over there cares. It really figures, I find a job I actually like and it takes one little piece of human refuse to throw it all off track.

Some people are just in love with the sound of their own voice. Any anyone who isn't is instantly a threat.

It may not hurt to ask him why's he's so insecure. What is it about your silence that him spooked. It is a little odd to be hounding you about it.

Bottom line, if he is becoming that much of a pest, it is harrassment. A talk with HR might be in order.

Story of my life. I get that everywhere I go if I'm there more than 15 minutes.

"Shh! Be quiet!" (sarcasm)
"Do you ever talk?"
"Say something."
"I don't think I know what your voice sounds like."
"Wow, you can talk!"
"One day I'll get you to say more than 2 words."
"You talk too much!" (sarcasm)
"I'm going to keep bugging you until you say something."
"Are you always this quiet?"
etc.

I've even been pinched and tickled because I was "too quiet."

So, I don't think this behavior is odd at all. Many people do it to me. I totally feel your annoyance.

He wants to piss you off, just to get you upset. He is an animal that enjoys the smell of fear, it enables him to hunt you more efficiently. He is a predatory beast.

I would try meditation, to learn some control of your emotions, that is the doorway through which he walks. Keeping your mind at peace is the goal. You do not want to be afraid and you do not want to be angry, both will fuel his hunt lust. When he doesn't get a response from you he may learn to respect you.

If you believe in a 'higher power' and I mean truly believe, then I would try prayer when he bothers you. My prayer goes something like this - "God, please help me to handle this difficulty. Please give this individual the education they apparently need." No judgment, just a request for assistance. Keep evil out of the prayer and keep it specific, about you wanting him to leave you alone. DO NOT pray for specific things to occur. When The Universe gives the individual the education they lack, they will learn to stop. They will learn that The Universe demands humans to be humans and not animals.

What type of work?

Is the harasser a boss?