Questions without reasons

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Hey all

I got one for you...
I keep getting asked questions without reasons...

For example 5 minutes ago my dad just asked me "Do you like karaoke?" and I asked why.. and he just answered... I was just asking... and I said "well whats the reason?" and he shrugged and said- just asking...

Why do people ask questions for no reason?? What is the point of them??? I just end up being puzzled and racking my brain for a reason... and I cant find one which makes me a bit confused....

hmmm??? How should I deal with this?
I never ask a question without having a reason...

I guess it's a crude way of approaching it, but if I ask "why" and people don't give a reason, I would refuse to answer the question. People give the rationale of "making conversation", which makes no sense and really frustrates me since there are hundreds of other things I could talk to people about that are more productive and thought-provoking.

Yes, having a context usually helps when trying to answer a question.

To me there always has to be a reason why people ask you a question, even if they don't admit it.

Otherwise why would they ask it? It would be a waste of time and energy

Beats me. I always think there is a reason. I answer and then ask why. Most of the time they are just curious or wondering. I think that's a reason. I am always wondering if they want to talk about it or something and if I am not into it, they can't talk about it or else I'd be bored and know nothing about it so therefore I won't be able to carry on the conversation. I just be going "oh" "okay" "uh uh." After all that be the reason why I would ask a question.

For some reason when people respond with "why?" it puts me off because I feel I am being rejected and they are being rude to me and I feel so much for trying to have a conversation so why even bother. I had did something wrong. I am better off not talking to people.

I do that all the time... usually it has to do with my own train of thought and really has no relevance outside my head. Just curious is an acceptable answer to me because often I am just curious too.

I think that a lot of NT's are uncomfortable with silence...to many NT's, talking is a way of forming a bond. Someone who asks questions for no reason may be trying to strike up a conversation or uncover a hidden passion of yours, perhaps your dad heard you singing in the shower or something and thought you'd be into karaoke!

My father in law is like this, he lives quite far away, and we see him rarely, so when we do see him he tries to cram in as much 'visiting' time with us as possible, and that seems to involve a lot of talking, even if it's not about anything in particular. we'll be driving somewhere, and he'll point at a building and say "when do you think that was built?" of course, we have no idea and say so, but once in a while (like, 5% of the time) he hits upon something that actually does turn into a conversation.

Bizarre, out-of-the-blue questions are mostly harmless, I don't usually mind them. also, having this attitude makes me feel entitled to ask weird questions of others, which I often do What are you eating? where did you get that? does that hurt? who would pay money for such a thing?

They probably just want to talk to you and will say anything that comes to mind. My mum can bring up something in dead silence about something that comes up out of the blue, usually during my favourite show, which annoys me.

I agree with that some NT's just want to talk all the time to bond. With me I only talk to ask questions that need a definite answer or to state a fact. Or when I'm medicated I will comment on everything I see right in front of me.

I think it is due to mindblindness.

When I am extremely interested in a subject, it is on my mind constantly. It flavors the way I see the world. As a result, I may often ask a question about it to someone without any kind of preface:

Inevitably, the other person asks for some kind of context. They don't see the thought process that led to my asking the question. I, however, thought that the process of thought was perfectly obvious. I expected them to understand the context, which was transparent to me.

For an NT, there is a similar framework in which they view the world. They may similarly expect the context to be transparent, and are shocked when it is not.

Yep, exactly. Many people do have reasons that they don't want to admit to, but many times, it's really just a way to facilitate or initiate conversation. Conversation involves... give and take. Questions, commentary, tangents, rambling and answers.