Silent Treatment

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Before I improved socially, I noticed that sometimes that while I was in the middle of a conversation, I would say things and people would not respond directly to what I said, but instead be silent for a few seconds and move on to another topic. I used to think that maybe they did not understand what I said, so that I repeated it several times louder and more clearly. Now, I realize, that they heard perfectly well what I said, and I was an idiot repeating myself like a parrot. I was focused on what I wanted rather than what they wanted.

People can be silent and not respond directly to what you said for several reasons:
1 - They were offended by what you said or it is too controversial to discuss in public.
2 - They do not agree with what you said but they do not want to start an argument.
3 - They do not care about what you said, and they don't want to have a discussion about it.
4 - Some things you say, people understand you well, but really don't know what to say in response.

Can anyone relate?

Yes, and it so much harder to interpret silence isn't it?

I can relate to a lot of that stuff.

I will be talking to people and then some one will come over and take their attention away from me while I am in mid sentence and interrupt while I am trying to speak and this recently happened when I was at a book signing with a pretty famous person to us who is like us.It is very frustrating that people don't even know me and seem to hate me because of me being me.

Yeah, I hate when that happens fixr.

Yes. I tend to repeat myself too and then stop, realizing I am maybe being ignored. One of the reasons why I don't bother with social chit chat.