Have you been treated unfairly?

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During the about 1 1/2 yrs. i've been in public school i've been bullied in ways like the bullies taking my cap away and throwing it over a fence where i couldn't get it back.

Another time the struggle was about my lunch box they wanted to take away, and one of them at any of those occasions grabbed my hair and ripped a hand full out.

When i came home i didn't say a word due to the previous experiences about the lost cap and the damaged lunch box, but my mom noticed the bald spot. When my dad came home she told him and i spent about the half of the night standing in the hallway because i should confess what i had done to cause the others to treat me like that.

They blamed me for being bullied and that was the worst thing about it. I was being bullied because they were in the superior numbers, and they lied for one another so it was their (4 or 5) words against mine. I was a target because i was kinda strange compared to them, awkward, dreamy, sad, and withdrawn.

What was so unfair about it was that i got bullied twice, once by the bullies but also by my parents since they blamed me for being the way i am/was. They always said, if you get bullied you must have provoked them before, otherwise they would be your friends. Especially my father was preferably driving on this track and i guess from his POV my only use was being a scapegoat. But few months ago he has been diagnosed with Parkinson's disease and complains about the injustice.

This topic so broad that its hard to pick a specific instance.

When I was in school I got bullied a lot. This was pre Columbine so the school didn't care and didn't do anything about it.

There wasn't really anything my mother could do and I'm not even sure if she knew how bad it was. For a long time I was embarrassed to talk about it.

I remember once in sixth grade an awful school counselor told me that it was my own fault that people treated me the way they did because of the way I acted. She didn't give any helpful advice. I refused to go and talk to her again after that.

I remember once having some school papers from when I had to go to family court and one of my teachers wrote on it in huge capital letters "SHE IS A LONER" and underlined it a few times. I may be a loner now but maybe I would have been a bit less of one in school had people been nicer to me. I was the most bullied and hated kid in the sixth grade. I only had one friend that ditched me by the end of the year.

I was bullie donly a few times by some but i made this thread because one occasion stands out for me and if you want you can tell your opinion.I will tell it later or tomorrow.

I had an freshman English teacher who got mad when I corrected her spelling on the board...after that, things didn't go so well. My sophomore year she got me kicked off the yearbook staff, and my senior year she tried to get me kicked off the student council, but the principal figured out what was going on and gave me detention instead, to appease her.

Edit: I should point out that she didn't teach me my sophomore or senior years.

Although I'm sure there have been several more minor incidents where I have been treated unfairly, these are the three most major ones I have experienced:

In elementary school, I was in band class and tried to impress my classmates by playing the Pocahontas song "Colors of the Wind", which I had taught myself by ear. Everyone in the class started booing me and the teacher told me to stop playing. Then my best friend at the time sat down and started playing the piano and everyone liked it (she had taken lessons). Someone said I had a lot to learn from her. I smiled and agreed, but on the inside I felt like crying. I don't play the piano much anymore.

When I was in junior high, I confessed to my best friend (the same one who had upstaged me at piano playing) that I had fallen in love with her. It was true - I had had many crushes before her, both male and female, but she was the first one I truly loved. She said she didn't feel the same, and I told her that we didn't have to be friends anymore if she didn't want to. A couple of days later, she and a group of her other friends (who were notorious around school for being bullies) handed me a note that said, among other nasty things, that I was "revolting lesbian slime" and that "[I was] going to Hell and [she wasn't] going to get dragged down with me." Although the group of girls could have easily been punished for homophobia, the school did nothing about it even when I went to the counselor and told her what had happened.

When I was in my teens, I was suffering from a bad case of anxiety, depression and OCD (all of which I later went on medication for). Naturally my parents were very worried about me and spent time taking me to therapists and the psychiatrist. My older sister (who is ten years my senior) was very jealous of the attention I was getting, and when our younger brother approached her and asked what was wrong with me, my sister said I was exaggerating all of my problems so that I could get mom and dad to pay attention to me. She began driving my brother to and from school, and during these car rides, they would talk about how much they hated me. I had no idea this was going on at the time, though my relationships with the two of them were volatile. I found out about it several years later when my brother confessed what had happened out of guilt. When I confronted our sister about it, she said that she "didn't know how bad [my] problems really were" and that it was everyone else's fault for not informing her.

In elementary school, other kids were allowed to misbehave and the teachers ignored it, but when I'd misbehave, I'd get attention and get into trouble. All that did was made me do it more because I was being treated unfairly so I kept at it to get treated right. I was a fighter.

Kids took advantage of me and egg me to do things and the school principal didn't care. She also said I had to toughen up about the teasing. But what bothers me the most about it is she had the rule about respect but yet she allowed bullying? Did that not apply to kids who had invisible disabilities? Took me this long to figure that one out because I had just thought of just now and I typed this. I even wonder if my school principal was a bully growing up and if she picked on any kids who were different.

When I was 17, I was doing softball and we got a new coach who happened to be a special ed teacher. He decided he was going to do cuts that year so he cut me from the team and told me he cut a few others too. I took it well and thought "oh well at least I get to do more video games and computer." But instead when I decided to do track so I get five bucks per practice from my dad (he told me he pay me for doing it so I did it for the money) I saw other girls didn't get cut from the softball team and I played better than them. I then felt mad about it because I felt he cut me because I was in special ed. Even some girls agreed so they didn't play the sport because of it. I had some support there. Even my parents felt the same way and confessed they didn't say anything about it because they didn't want to upset me. One of my online friends told me I should walk up to him and tell him "f**k you" to his face but I knew that wouldn't solve anything. I knew that would make it worse by having him think that was why he cut me from the team because of that attitude. I never bothered to confront him because I liked track better, it turned out to be fun. The following year I didn't do softball and he was the coach again. I didn't want to play that sport with him anyway.

Too many times. It just motivates me to be fairer with other people.

Good attitude dontslowmedown.

I have been treated unfairly a lot in my life.

I was bullied a lot for about 8 years in school. Anything from physical assaults to name calling, excluding, teasing, mocking, taking my possessions etc. The schools never bothered doing anything about it even though they knew what was going on.

I was abused physically and mentally by two family members for most of my childhood/teen years.

When I was a kid/teenager I was used often by people who I thought were my friends, but I later found out they were only using me.

Even in adulthood I keep coming across people who can't seem to resist bullying me or trying to take advantage of me or treat me unfairly in other ways. I've experienced bullying in the workplace and by adult relatives. I've had colleagues steal credit for my work and get me fired from my job (the company later found out how much work I had been doing that nobody else was capable of and they gave me my job back).

I feel like I've also been treated very unfairly by doctors. I've had doctors ignore me and tell me I'm just imagining stuff when I complained of health problems, without actually looking into what was wrong. I suspect that the main reason they never took me seriously is my Asperger's and my lack of stereotypical body language. After over TWENTY years of severe pains and major mobility problems and other physical symptoms I finally found a doctor who took me seriously enough to run some simple tests and I turned out to have several very painful, permanent conditions that could have been treated much earlier and early treatment would most likely have prevented them from getting nearly as bad as they are today.

So yes, I've had more than enough of unfair treatment.

Yes, but I don't really want to rant about it right now or I might end up doing this

I had a friend who ended up getting really sick in school. I and some other friends got her to the nurse. Afterwards, we were reprimanded for helping her out of fear of being sued .

Most doctors I have had ignore me. If I ask for help or for a second opinion, they deny me. They stare at me and shut me out when I disagree. I have been trying to get in to see a neuro since July, and they still keep denying me. I have very little faith in doctors, including psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, and the like.

Well, I've been abused by my dad for my entire childhood. Does that count?

Yes! I've worked for the same organization for the last 20 years and have consistently been denied the promotion I deserve. Seriously, just in terms of objective observation, I have outperformed (in almost every way conceivable) most of my co-workers throughout my career, but have watched a whole line of high social performers get promoted while I wallow in the same position. Apparently, having a good golf score and/or being a good drinking buddy is far more important than actual job performance when it comes to promotions.

Too many to list. Even here on Wrong Planet, people haven't been that friendly to me very often.