I get upset over dumb things; please help.

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I wanted to put this in the Adolesence forum, but I thought I'd get more responses here. Anyway, I'm 16, freshman in highschool, and I have this girlfriend (an aspie freshman with a girlfriend? Who'da thunk it!) I love her a lot and our first aniversery is coming up this May (we're geeks in love, so we'll do something geeky like watch the Super Mario Bros movie). But there's a problem with us. Well, really it's just me. Whenever she talks about things in her life, I become overwhelmed with stress, sadess, anger, frustration, happiness and other things; it's really just intense. Before we met, I was oblivious to other people's lives, and now that I'm with her it's like a completely new life, her life, is buildng itself in my memories, and I overreact to some of the things in it.

To help you get some ideas, we were walking, talking, all that fun stuff. Then she told me that she spent 2 weeks and her 8th birthday in a hospital because she had pneumonia! I started panicing for what seemed like no reason. I mean, 2 weeks!? 8th birthday!? LUNG MUCUS!? HOSPITAL!? I'm hospital-phobic, how could she stand it!?!? Now I need to give her a new 8th birthday and cake and candles because birthdays are the bomb when your only 8 and to have it in a hospitaaaaarrRRRGGGHHH!! !! !! !! !! (pant.. gasp.. wheeze..) I know it was a long time ago, and that lot's of people have to go to hospitals when they're sick, and yes, spend birthdays there too, but it just really wrattles up my mind.

And that's not the only thing that drove me looney, when I look at a map of her hometown(s), I flip because I can see all the houses, but don't know which is hers! Seeing her walk home from my bus, and not being able to say hi because I'm on the bus makes me start rocking back in forth with anxiety. Also, her English teacher gave her saturday school because her phone rang in class (Lady Gaga ringtone! ) her parents and I (but mostly I) flipped out, and they (her parents) went to the principal and proved the punishment wasn't fair, and her saturday school was lifted! But I still ge upset about it, and all the other things.

Anyway, my girlfriend thinks it's sweet that I care so much about her, but she thinks I react to things in her life more than she does. My extreme reactions even scared her a bit once. I don't like my overreactive behavior much either. It's just too distressing, and a waste of energy to be freaking out all the time, and it makes it hard to focus on otherthings I need to get done. I haven't been diagnosed with any of these yet, but I have reason to beleive that I'm bipolar, have depression, and/or mania.

So what do you say people of WP, can I get some help to calm down and get back to life?

I'm the same. I've even cried from hearing that a friend of mine had a terribly rough childhood. I don't know why though. D:

I tend to be super empathetic, so this happens to me commonly.

My husband wont watch or read anything to do with child abuse/neglect. He gets really upset about it and just cant see it. When I am sad, he is worse. He gets very upset if I am not 100 percent thrilled. His feelings hinge greatly on mine.

It sounds like you're a bit too obsessed with your GF. Remember what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Her experiences made her who she is. Curiously I spend a couple weeks in hospital, too as a child (5 year old then). The entire pediatric ward had just one big room, with babies all the way to teenagers. The babies cried day and night. I don't know how I managed to get any better. Parents weren't allowed to stay because there was no room. A tough childhood usually make a stronger adult. I'm sure of that. Maybe you can desensitize a bit? Many people in the world live in poverty and many suffer hunger and deprivation. There are a lot of wars, natural disasters, inequality, injustice...etc. Perhaps you can transform your compassion and sensitivity into useful actions to help others. Don't focus on your own pain (and those very close to you) too much, your personal sufferings will lessen.