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Hi folks

so roughly two hours ago I was with a female therapist - not my main one, just one who works at the place I go for ASD, and my main therapist was there beside her.
We got chatting about some various things which led to my main guy noting that the church my clinic is a section of had this guy who fought in WW2, and I asked if he was in the modern knights Hospitaller now, and they said yes

So the female therapist asked me "What's wrong with that?" I said "I didn't say anything was wrong with that *pause* but I do have a problem with it" so she asks in a tone I can't describe "why's that" I reply "I don't want to talk about it" but she perserveres "I'd like to know" but I don't reply because she's making me uncomfortable

I'm still sort of upset over how she reacted, I felt quite pressured, am I overreacting? I've generally disliked her as being domineering and such, or was I in the wrong?

I don't know what to think and I'm not sure why it's upset me so much.

You may be over-reacting a little. You did ask a specific question and finish with stating that you had a problem with the answer- the therapist may have thought you were going somewhere with it and wanted to make a point. Some people like having answers dragged out of them.

I doubt there's much damage done (end of the day, you're the patient) but next time maybe practice making deflecting excuses/changing topics rather than just clamming up and saying you don't want to talk about it; there's nothing wrong with what you said, but it does make people curious and as a therapist, she's got a 'licence' to ask lots of questions...

I've no idea what the modern knights hospitallier is, but if it's something that's gotten stick in the past before, she may already be defensive on the subject. As your therapist, she shouldn't let her own views get in the way, but people are people. A sweet smile and a 'Oh, I was just curious' would probably have stopped the conversation but leaving a statement hanging will always get more follow up questions

Funny how people think "I don't want to get into it" or "it's a long story" are actually invitations to ask follow up questions, which might usually be the case.