The grass is always greener on the other side

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Who uses this saying as a description of your attitude towards things?

I don't know why, but I've always used this. Not on purpose - I've only found out recently that my attitude towards myself fits this description perfectly. I am always admiring other people all the time, and wish I looked and behaved like them, even if they were ugly and a nasty person. I'm always wishing to have a different name, different tone of skin, different colour eyes, different posture, different appearance - and above all, different personality. Anyone else feel the same about yourself?

Green, green grass of home topic

At my age (this is my 57th year of life on earth) I have learned that what is over there ain't so green after all. I wish I could have known this years ago, and really believed it, but better late than never. After you pass a certain milestone, you realize there are more years behind you than in front, and this can help you to make every day count.

Since you are "stuck" with yourself, it is not as bad as you think, and others have similar woes or worse. This is why I do not compare or keep up with the proverbial joneses anymore.

"Dreams have only one owner at a time. That's why dreamers are lonely."

--Erma Bombeck, author of "The Grass Is Always Greener Over The Septic Tank"

Well I certaintly wish that I was not the person I am, there´s nothing I would wish more. I never fit in. I am jealous of people that are successful or just know how to live life. I just wish that I could do something right or that I was good at something but that is unfortunately not the case. Why can´t I just be ´normal´ it would make me a lot happier. My personality is crap and dead boring.

That would be envy, not jealousy, but yes, it would be nice if we could be different in some parts of ourselves.

That, my friend is an optical illusion caused by distortion in the atmosphere...

And no, I did not take that literally. But I did answer a figure of speech with a like-minded analogy.

I've spent mostly of my life wanting to be/pretending to be someone else. I have also been dissatisfied (at different times in life) with my name, skin-tone, eye color, appearance, posture and , yes, personality! So, yes, I've had the "grass is greener on the other side" attitude. I very much relate to your original post.

Now the only things I would change would be certain aspects of my personality as well as acquiring certain skills that I lack.

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I was once walking on a nice sandy beach when I looked across and saw what appeared to be an even nicer looking part of the beach area ahead of me. I walked over to it (with my bare feet) but when I got there found nothing but pebbles and jagged stones. I cut my foot on that beach that day.

The moral of the story being...the beach may look nicer but what you find when you get there may not be as nice as it actually appeared to be. In other words the grass is not always greener on the other side.

I can't remember ever wanting to be another person or to have what another person had. My problems are at least familiar and I've adjusted to them; I'd hate to have to discover and learn to live with the problems of another.

Not really. I sometimes wish to be on the other side and yet I also recognize that it wouldn't necessarily be any better, and I'm used to this side, and a change to the other side of things would be more difficult on me.

Not so. I was once somewhere where the grass was browner on the other side.

ruveyn

People always said this to me throughout my preteen/teen years when I, a huge loner at the time, envied the popular kids. Only in the past few years have I found it to be true. These so called popular kids aren't very interesting anymore...they aren't travelling or meeting any new people, and the only thing that they look forward to is drinking and going to the bar. How boring.

I beg to differ. The grass is what you make it. I have plenty of green grass growing on my side. My glass is more than overflowing.

Right now, there is a nasty girl at school who I want to be like. The reason why I want to be like her is that some of the staff members are extremely supportive of her and she seems to be able to do anything she wants me, but I have to treat her like a best friend.

We are basically opposites.

I want to like the music she likes (Jonas Brother) even thought I'm not a fan of that style of music. I want to have a low pain threshold, because she does. I want to have blonde hair, because she does.

It's a bit strange because I don't even like her.

I've felt this way about people before and tried to emulate them like that too...wanting the same hair colour and all It's really not worth your time though...... from my experience ............

Well, sometimes I have second thoughts. Every person has something to complain about. Even millionaires do. You don't find many people who are completely happy in every way. The happiest person I've ever met in my life is my mum's friend's 26-year-old son, who just lives in a wheelchair and can't say anything except just a few words, and he does have a mind of a 1-year-old baby. He laughs with joy when we go round to see him, and he gives you a cuddle and loves people making a fuss over him. The more people make a fuss of him the more he gets very, very happy, and when people aren't making a fuss of him he is still happy. He just sits and plays with toy motorbikes all the time. He gets especially excited when a motorbike passes him, or if an aeroplane flies above him, ect. He is probably the most happiest adult I have ever met, and he never, ever cries either (he doesn't have any emotion except excitement).
But every NT I have ever met have their mood swings all the time. I mean, I always wished I could be like my 19-year-old cousin, who is a really confident NT with lots of mates and enjoys parties, ect. But she is so miserable a lot of the times, and speaks rotten to her mother, and is very selfish. She never has money to herself either, because she always spends it on parties, alcohol, make-up, clothes, and going on outings and holidays with her mates, and her mother gets really annoyed with her and even says to my mum that she wishes she had a daughter like me – who doesn’t go out with friends enough or shopping to spend all my money away. Instead I am careful with it, and without too much social pressure I can give myself time to think more of what to do with my money.
And I often look at my cousin and think, ''I would be in my glory to have a social mind like hers! Not miserable and rude!'' But then I think that if I did have a social mind like that, I would take it for granted so much that I would never appreciate it.

My Nan is very good at giving advice, and she always says to me that wishing to be what you ain't is human nature. Most humans always look at other people and admire them and wish they were them or wish they were like them.