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24 Apr 2011, 4:04 pm

Okay.
I'm happy with my life and existence right now as it is. I'm not saying I expect to live this way forever, because I know that things change over time. And I am always seeking to mentally and emotionally better myself. But what's with this idea that I HAVE to desire more in life or else I'm abnormal? I'm not opposed to the thought of having a boyfriend, for example, but the point is that I am not actively looking for one or even plan to. And I'm happy this way.

Making your life a neverending ladder sounds kind of silly, in light of the fact that you're going to die in the end anyway. I would rather die happy rather than knowing that I never allowed myself to be fully satisfied.

I think my contentedness is due to the fact that my standards are so simple, and I require little in order to make me happy. "Success" is a subjective term in my view. Who's with me?



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24 Apr 2011, 4:08 pm

Fame is fleeting but mediocrity is forever.

I remind myself to express gratitude and contentment in my life, often when I want something I cant get. Its better than staying covetous over unattainable things

Who wants to die a hungry ghost?



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24 Apr 2011, 4:30 pm

Yes. For example, I'm completely happy without all the shiny new toys that everyone else seems to buy bigger and better every year. It's pretty annoying when people tell me to get with the times because I don't have the latest iPhone or whatever. I'm completely happy without all those things, thanks.



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24 Apr 2011, 4:32 pm

Who said it was a bad thing?


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24 Apr 2011, 4:56 pm

Moog wrote:
Who said it was a bad thing?


People who seem to mistake it for stagnation, I guess.



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24 Apr 2011, 5:14 pm

I have said before that I was bred with low expectations. I do not really desire much in life. I understand wants and needs are very different things... and I also understand that there are a lot of people out there who think if you are not madly chasing after wants then you are somehow defective or weird or whatever. It always seemed to me that, as you said, the never ending ladder is silly. It seems too much stress and it it would seem to take away from contentedness rather than enhancing it. That ladder mindset is one I do not really comprehend. I guess I am not programmed that way. My goal is calm and quiet, not moremoremore.


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24 Apr 2011, 5:27 pm

I think people in general are quite content not to be content. That is, by chasing things and hoping to achieve this level of success, one after the other. I think being content is a good thing, but something very rare and I might add very virtuous. If you are content that's a great quality to have. I wish I could learn to be content with what I have. :oops: I do think that chasing temporary highs of success is rather pointless in the end. But as people we are so busy in our pursuit of gains in this rat race we often never slow down enough to even think that through.



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24 Apr 2011, 5:30 pm

I'm quite contempt with my life as it is. I don't need to get with the times, or buy the latest toys.


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24 Apr 2011, 6:10 pm

I think the economy and advertising tries to get people ill contented, so they buy more to be happy. Materialism sucks

Same with divorce, its good for the economy. Contentedness is the enemy of the state



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24 Apr 2011, 6:24 pm

I'm content with being single and alone. All I really need is money so I can come and go in the world as I please.



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24 Apr 2011, 7:17 pm

I'm perfectly content with my life. In fact, this is probably the happiest period of time in my life that I've ever gone through. Other people (even on this website) tell me that I need to stop living with my parents and have a boyfriend (or at least have sex). But I don't want to do any of that. I am a female Peter Pan living an eternal childhood. I've found my own happiness, and I feel sorry for people who project their own desires onto me.



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24 Apr 2011, 8:40 pm

Contentment is a good thing. By definition.

I'm pretty content with where I am right now all except in that I know it can't last and I don't yet have a solid plan as to what I'll do when it ends. But I've got plenty of time left, which means I can work on that at a fairly leisurely pace.



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24 Apr 2011, 9:01 pm

IdahoRose wrote:
I'm perfectly content with my life. In fact, this is probably the happiest period of time in my life that I've ever gone through. Other people (even on this website) tell me that I need to stop living with my parents and have a boyfriend (or at least have sex). But I don't want to do any of that. I am a female Peter Pan living an eternal childhood. I've found my own happiness, and I feel sorry for people who project their own desires onto me.


I'm exactly the same way. This truly is the life.
It's like, 'comfort zone? What comfort zone? Isn't having a boyfriend supposed to be fun? Come on...'



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24 Apr 2011, 9:01 pm

I know, Chamomile, it is kind of hard to know that nothing will last.... I'm worried about the future myself.