would you still get married with AS?

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i'm particularly interested in hearing from the diagnosed AS guys.. if you were starting your life over, knowing you have AS, would you still get married?

i'm recently diagnosed.. i'm wondering if a better path to being happy is to remain single? (i do ok with women).

Absolutely not.

At this point in my life, I'm beginning to have serious doubts about my capability to ever be an emotionally responsible partner.
I don't think marriage would be a beneficial thing for any prospective partner, or for me.

Oh my goodness, it's Acacia.

Where have you been?

I wouldn't but then again I don't want to get married at all.

Even before I knew about AS I thought I didn't want to get married. I might change my mind one day, but I doubt it. I don't mind being single my whole life.

I don't really like the idea of marriage. A person can have a healthy, lasting relationship without all the legalities and without spending a ridiculous amount of money.

If I actually find someone who can deal with me and wants marriage, I wouldn't want to do it the traditional way (i.e. church, ceremony, reception, etc.) because I'm not religious, and that's way too many people giving me attention.

I'd rather just elope, really. Marriage is a man-made tradition, anyway, so I shouldn't be obligated to participate.

I don't plan on getting married. I do so much better living alone.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3Z9cjKkqn4[/youtube]

'Nuff said.

I'm a suspected AS married to another one. He was the one who *insisted* that it be a legal marriage, not a commitment ceremony, even though I was on disability before, don't qualify now because of his income, and we could have benefited from the little bit of extra money.

If I find someone I'd like to marry, I'll marry them. I don't think AS will affect my decision about marriage.

lol.. thanks for the replies guys, and the video was very funny.

have any of you who posted actually been married?

this guy (robertyknwt) seems like he has things pretty tough:

Right now, there's me, my wife, four teenage daughters, and a 3-br half-duplex with about 1200 sqft. (Man, it's expensive to live in southern California; you do NOT want to know what we're paying in rent.) I would love a place big enough for us all to have our own spaces -- one daughter is autistic, but even the others like to cocoon now and then -- but that ain't gonna happen right now.

How do I feel most days?

Depressed. Unhappy. Tired. Overwhelmed (by the responsibility of trying to be a "good" father and husband, which is very very difficult for me). Frustrated that I've never reached my "potential", whatever that is. Simmering rage below the surface at school bullies, a rage I can't seem to let go of. Lonely, yet wanting more time alone than a family of 6 in a 1200 sqft house can afford.


yet others seem to do great, eg Wife-of-Aspie (i'd post links to their posts but since i'm a new user i can't)

Related to this subject, I'd like to ask you guys a question (I don't think I should have started a new topic just for that) - so this is for those with AS:

From your experiences, is a relationship with an AS person more.. comfortable than one with a NT? I was thinking that you might understand better each other's "issues" and your need to be alone from time to time, for example. And that for a NT all this could be a quite a struggle (depending on the person, that's true).

One of my main desires is to get married and start a family. AS doesn't change that.

I dislike the institution of marriage.
If you are (incorrectly) using marriage to
mean a committed relationship, my answer is yes.