Physical feelings and conflict?

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Hey guys, I've been kind of curious about if this certain issue is a problem for people on the spectrum and I don't really have anyone I could ask about this where I live.

I have extreme trouble interpreting the layers between "playful conflict" and "very, very bad conflict", first of all. I can tell those two extremes, and I can guess if they're smiling, then it's leaning towards one end, but everything else goes over my head, especially in the heat of the moment. In those moments I think my brain assumes that it's the worst possible conflict, from how people tell me I exaggerate conflicts.

Ever single time I am around conflict that is obviously not the extreme of playful conflict, no matter where it's originating from (the happens during movies as well), I get a physical sensation that is the equivalent of eating something putrid.

I then desperately try to get away from the feeling by lying (my family history has pretty much forced me to become a good liar to get some peace in some aspects), or by physically removing my self from the situation. If I'm in a movie, I put my fingers on my ears and push down where the noise from the conflict is muted slightly and close my eyes.

Of course this has lead to me being teased/told multiple times by my relatives to "buck up", among other things. I know that not being able to pick up subtle cues like interpreting layers of conflict is an trait, but is the overwhelming physical sensation one as well or is it just a normal trait that I have to get used too?

I have a hard time with this also. I usually jump to the conclusion that someone wants to make me look/feel stupid, or provoke me into an arguement. That they may be kidding never occurs to me unless I've known them for awhile.

When it's suspected conflict with someone I don't know very well, my stomach knots up, then I feel like throwing up, then I get so angry that I'm shaking. All I can do in the moment (besides exploding into a tantrum) is leave the room.

If it's someone I feel like I can trust, I still sometimes need to leave the room! I do come back however, after talking myself down. I can almost never explain what's going through my head to them, just change the subject.

It's very hard to be rational when my body is responding so strongly.