Some aspies don't care what people think of them?

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Some do, and some just don't. I think this is a key difference in how being on the spectrum effects some people. I'll admit I'm a little faded, so I'm not gonna make the perfect sense, but I think so.

...some NT's don't care what people think of them.

Not giving a sh*t knows no one neurology.

That's right some NTs dont care either but from what I read, the process of seeing things from another point of view is pretty delayed in Aspies and one has to realize that other people see them differently than they see themselves before they can care what others think about them. I was well into my teen years before I made this realization while most NT kids start "thinking about what other kids are thinking" to some extent, when they are still in elementary school.

I don't care much about what the mainstream think of me, but I care a lot about what my friends think of me. And if I'm forced by circumstances to deal with the mainstream, I feel anxious that I'll say the wrong thing........it's like I don't care what they think as long as I don't have to go through first-hand experiences of their disapproval. So I suspect that its only consciously that I don't give a damn what they think, and deeper down I'm still very interested in winning the approval of people in general. I didn't win my mother's approval when I was a child, so maybe that's why it's such an issue with me now.

I don't really care what people think. I will only care in certain circumstances. But my ex who was aspie cared too much what people thought of him it impaired him. He was just very paranoid and worried too much what strangers were going to think. My husband is that way too but not to that extreme. But me I don't care. I cannot grasp why some people care what strangers think of them, is that normal or social anxiety?

Amen to that.

Add me to the list of people who don't care what others think of them.
It helps being on the spectrum though because I can just turn off from people and get stuck in my own little world. Well not stuck, more like become very comfortable.

I'd like to think that I don't care, but I probably do to a degree, though less than in the past.
I don't know because nobody has been openly negative about me for a while now, and I don't want to find out.

You don't have to go through the entire process, you just need to start it i.e. have the theory part of "theory of mind".

I've thought that kind of cognitive event had to be accompanied by some sort of observation even for NT although it would happen earlier for them. Could searching your past discover the source of your own personal memory of acquiring Theory of Mind(literally as just the theory part)? Lately I've been trying to actually piece my cognitive and psychological history together by thinking about my earliest memories and their implications.

Even if you have no way of knowing what others are thinking of you if you know that they may in fact be thinking of you and that their thoughts of you might be different then you'll make it up and probably be highly inaccurate in your interpretations. Just like how blind or partly blind people see things that aren't there sometimes, called Gillian-Bairds Syndrome, although they can distinguish them from reality.

I was often on edge afraid of people's interpretations of me and then realized I was in some kind of emotional Gillian-Bairds Syndrome.

I care a lot less than I used to do. Usually, I only care what people think of me when it really matters. Like those situations where, if I don't try to fit in, I'll get harassed or beaten up.

I only care when others perceptions of me become obstacles in my goals. Then it gets personal.

I have no interest in adapting to others expectations of 'normal'.

I care too much about what others thinking of me. In fact, it's become an obsession mixed up with an anxiety, and also a fear. I think it's best if you don't care what others think of you. Because once you get upset about it, i does take over your life. Especially if you're me.

I wish I didn't care about what others thought of me, but I do. I have an internal struggle going on about whether to be myself and ignore the haters or keep hiding facets of my personality from people out of fear of ridicule.

I remember telling a boss once after he was dumping on me and telling me that I was worthless and that I should get out of the trade. I told this boss that I was a good worker and that I did not care what he thought of me.

My life would be so much easier if I didn't care. No matter how much I tell myself that it doesn't matter and that I shouldn't care there's always part of me that really does care. It really bothers me sometimes. I have an intense fear of criticism and ridicule, and whenever it does happen, I'm always at a complete loss as to what to do. If somebody says something bad about me to my face no matter what I've never been able to stand up for myself. I've always noticed that I'm easily persuaded, and I think it might have something to do with that.

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Its the only way to live, i'm telling you.

I do, and I don't.

It bothers me when people judge me - strange, ignorant, shy, cold, b*tch, sl*t, etc. - however I am a. able to understand this is more about their inadequacies and personality problems than mine, and b. I'm easily distracted by more important things...usually shiny things

In high school I was bottom of the social ladder, if I had been bothered I wouldn't have made it through, but I believe being aspie is what made it easier to deal with because I didn't see the importance of there being a social ladder to begin with - if you see what I mean.