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I should be grateful my riends that i have known for 10 years have been loyal to me and stuck me given that i have AS and do not do things the way they do......

the problem i am having is that people criticizing my communication skills and others saying that communciation and social skills will never come naturally to me. If I did not have AS and had below average social skills it would not be so much of a problem because the more i practise teh better i would get kind of living learning to drive a car.

i think the problem is

1. Knowing i have AS and that it impairs my communication

2. having to recoperate in social interaction since friendship is a two way street



I fear that eventually my friends may not want to hang out with me anymore cause every social ineraction can be stressful because i have to carry around the idea in my head that i am social ret*d but at the same time it is probably a good thing that i know i have AS because a lot of things come easier to others than me and this something i found growing up prior to me knowing i am autistic.

I suggest you get in contact with a speech and language therapist

How would they help me?

do you feel like you have accepted the difficulties that autism can bring ?.

Even neurotypical people have to accept the fact that their friends might turn their backs on them at ANY time. This is no problem though there are plenty of people on this planet to make new friendships with. If you cling onto your friends and fear the might abandon you then this will only create friction that would not be there if you just relax and go with the flow.

They have been with you for 10 years now, seems unlikely that they would get annoyed about your communication skills after knowing you for so long. People you know well tend to not make a big deal out of things that would annoy them when strangers did it.

Try thinking about how you can get rid of this fear to loose your friends.

having AS is exactly like having below average social skills and learning them like driving a car, only you take a lifetime at learning to drive this car to its full potential.

Yeah but i can't just hangy out with my friends all night and say nothing