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m male and 17 with ASD/vcfs and everyone thinks that I am "a little slow" and It kind of offends me. I am "a little slow" by most people it takes me longer to think up the answer than most people they would say to me "dude you're so slow" whenever I'm not a quick thinker or they would say "dude you're an idiot" or "dude I'm smarter than you" and every time they say this I would dwell on this for months. I am extremely sensitive to what people say about me and when people call me a idiot or slow I get offended easily. I am shy and quiet and have no friends and everyone is picking on me and calling me ret*d or slow I would always get people saying "you're slow" or "you're not bright" and I would just get offended. What I mostly got offended by was when one person said to me "dude oh my God I'm smarter than you" because I am usually a smart person I don't like it when he said that because I don't want to be dumber than he is because I am a junior and he is a freshman. I also have a inferiority complex and my self esteem is low. I get bothered by people telling me this. I am smart but lately everyone has been saying that I act like a complete idiot or I'm slow. I don't know why. I also get told by everyone that I am a "epic fail" and that it offends me when someone says that because I get that a lot by other people and I just would go home worrying about what they say. I know I made this post more than once but when someone says something mean to me I would write it up online and tell people about it and post it on the internet so I could get some advice. If someone says something mean to me I would go and dwell on what they said about me for months. It really bothers me and I don't know what to do to stop.
Sorry for that bad question at the beginning I meant to say do people think that you are "a little slow" because I was typing the question and I don't know what happened at the end. Sorry folks I am not sure on how to edit the question box.

Most of my life I've been treated like a was a hopeless case. I had barely any knowledge outside of my interests which were as varied as drawing animals and watching cartoons. I was such a poor student in school too. I never knew what anyone thought of me until I started to hang out with people. They made fun of me for being too quiet. Later on when I spoke more I realised that I didn't know as much as most people.

So I found out I had autism (classic mod/hf) and combined ADHD. The inattentive symptoms really make me feel slow and dumb. Amazing what a tiny half-pill can do to my brain. My hyperactive symptoms just make me say a lot of weird and embarrassing things, that is, when I can focus for longer than 10 seconds.

I also started to learn as much as I could and eventually got smarter than people so now the hopeless case is the hopeless nerd case.

Anyway people they say you are stupid are just making themselves feel better. Don't dwell on it. Just know that you are smart and everyone who thinks otherwise are really the ignorant ones. Maybe you have some inattentive ADD yourself or have other processing difficulties.

I've been put down a lot and dwell on things FOREVER! HELL I'm still rethinking of the college suspension from Feb. 2005 every though I'm BACK IN COLLEGE! I can't let it go I upset a Psychology professor while Psychiatrist & therapist gives pills or shrug it off with a "be yourself/past in the past" behavior view! DAMN IT! Also sadly someone on WP called me slow. I don't believe I'm slow. I've come up with research ideas and I don't even have my AA yet. I've also came up with a Dissertation topic to my amazement. I wouldn't call that "slow" If I am "slow" it's not in an academic way AT ALL! I know more than my non-GED parents! BOO! YA! They'll cringe when I get a Bachelor yet alone a PhD the stuff I'll know WA HA HA HA HA! *maniacle laughter!*)

I also hate being helped out by other people. They always tell me that I am doing the work wrong and that I am not doing it right. I don't know why but everyone has been calling me an Epic fail recently I don't know why. I have been called this a lot online and in real life. I have also been called stupid or dumb because of this. None really says that many nice things to me. This is how a situation with me working with someone would go out. It would be like this
"hey man can I help you with you're work"
"Sure"
*Looks at paper* *Sigh* "DUDE, Oh my god you are a epic fail you are doing this so wrong here let me help you" every time someone does this to me it is insulting. I hate being criticized like this.

Another problem I have that I have noticed a lot is that when someone calls me ret*d other people would get protective of me because of that. When someone will say "Hes so ret*d" to me they will go "Dude don't make fun of him" and I would get insulted by the other people because that makes me think that I am ret*d because everyone is saying to the bully to not call me that. When other people call each other ret*d and they stand up to me for it I feel kind of offended because that makes me think that I am actually ret*d because everyone is standing up for me. Does anyone ever have this happen to them?

I have very limited contact with people. I don't work or study.

When people ask if they can help you just tell them 'no, I can manage on my own.' They are only asking to make fun of you anyway.

Honestly if people treated me like that I'd get violent. I don't advise it but it angers me that much.

You need to learn to not get offended at the word 'ret*d'. It is thrown around so much to describe someone that is ignorant in one little area, to someone who appears to be dumb, to someone that makes one mistake. And at least some people are sticking up for you. They probably don't think you actually are ret*d but might know of your autism and know that only the lowest forms of life make fun of autistics. So I would thank them for sticking up for you.

What makes me deal with people that make fun of people like me is to watch comedy and get used to the fact that comedians will make fun of everything, and as long as it's said in a non-violent or discriminating way then it's ok by me.

Yes I get bad performance evaluations at work which state that I am confused and unsure of myself and that I have problems remembering things.

Yeah, I know, and it's not fair, especially if you are smarter than they. When people get to know me, they are really surprised.

Yes my boss really freaked out when I threatened to file a rebuttal to my bad performance evaluation because he thought he would look like an idiot.

People who feel it's acceptable to call other folks ret*ds, stand for everything I hate. I recommend you fight it with everything you've got. It's a very elitist term and those who use it show themselves up for what they are - judgemental bastards.

Unfortunately the people that love to call autistics ret*ds are the people in mangagement and they have all of the power of hiring and firing.

Managers do not call me a ret*d directly but they love to write bad performance evaluations that complain about the large amount of staff time it takes to train me implying that I am a slow learner and further implying that I am a waste of training resources because I cannot retain information.

I also have a very active imagination and where sometimes I would zone out like if I was thinking about something from my favorite TV show I would think about that and it would impact my thinking. I also hate it when I get help form other people and that they would often look at my paper like the world just ended because of how wrong I always am.

Another thing that I would like to know has anyone ever said to you "Dude, I'm smarter than you" I got this from someone and I got offended by what the other person said. Anyone else like this or have similar problems with what other people said to them.