Feel awkward staring at people

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I have heard that aspies often stare at people, but I am the opposite, I really HATE staring at people. I try really hard to do it and feel embarrassed when I do. Does anyone have this odd problem as well? I have never heard of this before.

I don’t think it is a problem. You are not supposed to stare!!

Sometimes I see someone and our eyes meet briefly, and then I can barely resist staring at them, but this doesn't happen that often.
Most times I am aware how much attention my eyes are giving to individuals, so I can usually avoid staring.

I have been told that I sometimes stare for inappropriate amounts of time. I have caught myself as well.

It's not that I would try to be creepy, or do it purposefully. It's just that if I finally decide to make eye-contact or look at someones face, it takes me sometimes a good 15 or 30 seconds to actually "see" what they look like. I'm not sure if that makes sense. For example, I would look up and see the shape of the head/face. Then I might notice glasses, and have to process that before I can see the glasses clearly. Then I'll have to concentrate a little on each feature, or I won't be able to see them properly. I can't just glance at someone and see what they look like.

I stare. It's been drilled in me since I can remember not to, but sometimes I just can't help it. People watching has always been a favorite pass time for me.

Plus, half the time I don't even see what I'm looking at because I'm deep in thought.

When I originally heard about the deer in the headlights stare I didn't relate to that at all. Then I was told I would actually do that sometimes along with looking down while talking, I think. I didn't know I did that and I think I wish I was never told because it made me think too much of where to look.

I've also accidently found an aspie or two staring at me and I hoped they were just spacing out. I assumed so.