Confidence?

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I have a question thats been on my mind a lot?

How does an aspie get over feeling inadequate and gain confidence if society is constantly telling them everywhere they go that there not acceptable, and there not good enough? And society is telling them they have to change to gain acceptance?

Yeah, good question, wish I knew the answer, not much help,I know, but I look forward to anyone making suggestions.....

if they are able to tell them they are wrong and be succesful....

though i dont think it helps when you say that and are unsuccesful =/

I wouldn't be surprised if places like these, where we see countless like-minded people, help some people along.
Personally, at the moment I have self-belief, which has been notoriously hard to come across in the past for me. This self-belief has come from people being positive about me, and me being able to recognise what I'm good at, and that others' opinions do not really matter.

You might start by finding something you are good at for a hobby--to remind yourself that you have a particular talent for something. This isn't quite the same as a special interest--just because you have an interest in something doesn't mean you are any good at it.

Same is true with jobs, you often have to trade off what you are good at doing with what you like to do.

I don't think you can have social confidence if you get nothing but social failure for years (even if it's not your fault), though there's no accounting for what a really determined person might achieve. I don't think a person can give love if they've never been given love.