What kind of hell is this?

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I don't get why my mind is so obsessed with women and sex. When I tell people online and my doctors (up until very recently) they just laugh it off and say it's normal guy thoughts, but it isn't. Normal guys don't sign up and delete plentyoffish accounts and beg women to meet them, regret it, then make another profile. Normal guys have thoughts during the day other than women and sex.

The thing is, too, I don't even enjoy the thoughts. They take over me. I'm not sure how much of this is being a late 20s man whose body wants to reproduce, but to me it's more than that.

I'm otherwise a happy guy for all intents and purposes. The hypersexuality completely takes over my life and makes me just want to lay down and die (not literally.)

Luckily, my psychiatrist finally is taking me seriously and wants a list of every pill I've ever been on so we can come up with a new plan.

Aren't autistics supposed to lean toward asexuality if anything?

The way my mind works, you'd think women were the only reason for getting up in the morning (when I know that isn't true and don't want it to be true.)

Sounds like an obsession.

It sounds like a symptom of OCD...........you can try taking SSRI's if you haven't yet............but cognitive behavioral therapy (according to the research lit) works much better than meds for the treatment of OCD and other anxiety disorders. It also will be less expensive in the long run because you don't have to keep it up indefinitely like you do with the meds.

Having said this I'm a hypocrite because I'm taking meds and not doing CBT for my anxiety just because I haven't got the time for the homework and all the effort of CBT.

I'm on Prozac (SSRI).

Also I'm not going to lie and say that I'm not physically attracted to women...I am. But not to this degree. I'd literally trade any obsession for this one.

It also seems to be messing with my self-esteem...going on the dating sites and getting read/deleted or blocked or told no in not so nice language (and I'm not asking them for sex or anything, just talking nicely.)

Maybe the whole meet and beg thing isn't normal but thinking about sex in general regularly is normal for a guy. Like someone said it could be exacerbated by OCD.

Thinking about sex regularly, yes...but 99 percent of the day, and going to sleep and having sexual dreams (despite masturbating) isn't normal. I'm 27, not 17.

Btw, if I thought going to a high class escort would take care of this problem, I'd do it. I don't think it would. If anything, after getting a taste of sex I'd want more.

What's weird to me is I've fooled around (meaning everything except penetration) with a couple girls...and it's good...but I didn't think it was all that in real time. That's what's weird...it's some mind obsession...some voyeuristic fantasy.

Actually, you'd be very surprised. Very Very.

I had those types of thoughts and dreams when I was your age. I used to think about men and sex all the time and every man who walked past me was very handsome. I hated it.

Those guys are just messaging literally everything with a hole on the site looking for a hookup. I'm on here just for obsessiveness...as a bad habit. I'm not begging women for hook-ups. Just messaging women for validation hoping to get a response, then when I don't, or don't get the response I want, getting into fights, regretting it, deleting it, and signing up a couple days later.

My mind seems to be obsessed with the idea of women and sex more so than the reality if that makes sense.

It was the same way before I started dating. I'd have all these fantasies in my head...and once they were replaced by reality (the good and bad) they went away.

I'm just worried because I hear that once you have sex, especially a guy, it just gets worse having had a taste of it.

I don't even want a wife/kids anyway and can live without a girlfriend...so why my mind/body is so obsessed is beyond me.

The dreams I have at night...I mean...wow...naked pool parties with women and myself and the like. It gets old, too.

No they aren't.

I believe there might be more of a tendency towards either hyper or hypo sexuality among aspies than in the mainstream population.

My low sex drive is caused by medication.

my high sex drive is miserable right now. I'm on prozac which I'd hoped would kill my sex drive(I'm 30) but no. Anyways I've heard some medications kill your sex drive but I've yet to find one. I'm hesitant to ask for one too as I'm female and doctor is male. Husband is very religious and believes sex is a sin(even in marriage) and so I'm stuck w/that too. I only ask him 2-3 times a week for sex but he keeps talking about my sex supposed sex addiction and how sinful I am.

Anyways back to my point I think it's an age thing.

Whilst I have many of the symptoms of asperger's I certainly don't have a lack of interest in sex lol. Actually I spent several years being slightly fixated on a particular sexual act that I enjoyed (ok call it a fetish). Although I wasn't so much obsessed with sex as I was with the fetish itself.

Anyway, as long as a man doesn't touch in me in certain places or in certain ways that make me want to push them off or thump them (even though I don't thump them, rub me the wrong way and I will be tempted to) I love sex. Although I don't obsess about it all the time and my obsession with my errr fetish has ebbed away a bit now (although it's still something I enjoy at times).

PN My fetish was nothing illegal or immoral!