Reaction to death...

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So, my grandfather died today, and when my brother told me I couldn't keep a huge grin off my face. I wasn't happy that he'd died or anything, I really couldn't care less about him. I just thought that feeling like that was pretty weird. So I've heard that people with AS may have "inappropriate" emotional reactions to things. Would that be it, or am I just a pervert?

my grandpa died recently, and I didn't really feel anything.

my brother was kind of sad.

mostly just made me think about my own dad dieing and how that would affect the family

and made me wonder what my dad thinks of his dad dieing.

Um... why would that make you a pervert? You weren't thinking of sex at the time were you?!

To answer your question, it really varies (as do most things with AS) as to how much or little emotion people show about death. When my Granny died, it felt like my world had ended and I was so distressed that I had a nervous breakdown. I still cry when I hear about cancer because that's what she died of. For you, it obviously isn't as upsetting. That doesn't make you a bad person. Everyone deals with death differently. I do believe that innapropriate response is part of AS though because I sometimes smile or laugh when I am being told off... needless to say most people aren't impressed with that!

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Being told off is pretty funny, if the person telling off is someone you really don't respect, which, for me at least, is usually the case.

Anyway, I used the word "pervert" because a) I think it's a great word, and b) because it doesn't have to be used in a sexual context. I was just saying it because I couldn't help laughing when I was told of a death, that's just not right...

I didn't feel anything for my grandparents, for my two uncles, for my neighbors.. but for my aunt.. can't explain that big pain, whole day i was cold, but when i sow her, i couldn't handle with reality and criedd loud, more than 1 year past and i still feel pain for my aunt when i think for her.. maybe that was because that was one of rare person who listened me when i talk lot of and hug me when i cried when i was kid.

If you have a lot of good memories about your grandfather, maybe thinking about him invokes an automatic smile.

I lack real emotional response to death.

When my dad died I felt very little, when my cousin died I felt nothing at all other than discomfort at the upset of those around me, although I did get upset when my best friend died I still didn't seem to express it in the same way as others. I do get upset when pets die though.

I think maybe you smiled just in the same way as some people suffer nervous laughter when something bad happens.

My girlfriend died in January. I was devestated. I'm still devestated.

I've been to funerals, around crying people and coffins about to be put into the ground. The thing is, I don't feel for people who have died. I'm never glad that they're dead, of course, but I'm also never sad. No tears.

I cry when someone that I really care about passes away, but that's about it. The first time that I've actually cried over a death was last June, but that's in the past.

i've had close to zero reaction when relatives passed away but was devastated for months when i lost a cat. there are people i would be stunned if i lost and i would have a hard time coping, but few.

i have also grinned when telling or hearing bad news, and once even when told that someone died. i did not feel good about the news in any way at all but it provoked a startling emotional response which somehow got confused and did not come out right. more appropriate responses follow these things for me but it takes time. i think some miswiring here comes with the territory.

maybe there is something like a synesthesia of emotions, in a way. a strong emotion may not know quite which emotion to be if you are suddenly overwhelmed with it.

i wasn't sad when my gran died. i dont really get sad when people i know die. i don't know why but i only feel apathy so i cant really tell you why you were smiling but you're not alone. i did get sad when my cat died though. i cried for ages and i never cry, not in front of people anyway. i still miss my cat and he carked it ages ago. maybe its because we don't make connections with other people in the same way that others do, or at least i don't. maybe you do.