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i am obsessed with a game i can no longer play and it makes me so angry and sad.I can not forget it or move on so what the hell do i do?I have shed so much blood,tears and sweat over it is just not fair.I am always reminded of this game by people and my obsessive thoughts.I still try to get it back daily but it just won't happen.It plays a big part in my worsening severe depression.The game means so much to me i love it but i now hate it too for what it has done to me.I have had such a dark time with it and i jsut want it to work out.I tstresses me out so much because it is all i want to do and i have tried to get it back for 3 years spending energy i jsut do not have.Sorry for my rambling i just dont know anymore

First off, what game? Secondly, get some meds to help ease the anxiety and depression, then use a clear mind to move past the game. I feel your pain, i've been playing the same online game for 11 years, it's a part of me lol.

Why would you call this a dangerous problem?

its not an online game it is realy a sport.I do not want to go into it now but i may later down the line.All i want is for people to relate to the obsession and danger aspects of not being able to indulge in what you love.

because i am dangerously obsessed with it.It has destroyed the last 3 years of my life and anyone else would of given up on it but i just can not!

So, did you experience an injury and can no longer play it? Was it a competitive sport? I can see why you'd be depressed about that.

yes it was a competitive sport and it is something that people who play the it can often get.It destroys their game and makes it seemingly impossible to play.I am talking here about the yips.

I don't know what the yips are...

the yips is not the initial thread but it is my problem obsession with the game.I just do not know to be honest i obsess about a game i can no longer play and it is very damaging

loss of fine motor skills.

I am so sorry. Maybe...go to a doctor? And occupational therapist?

Thanks blackcat.
That's too bad about the yips, I hope things improve.

i have and there is no help.I am not asking about cures but rather what i am supposed to do about the awfull obsessing?

Work on your long game and approach shots so you're never more than a few feet from the hole. Compensate.

Is it mental or physical?

I have a similar problem with surfing. For different reasons, I walked away from the only thing I felt fully alive while doing. I've never been able to get it out of my system. I play around the edges with it because I'm 500 miles from the ocean. But it's not the same.

the game in question is not golf it is actualy darts.My obssesiveness is what i want people to notice though because it is very dangerous obsessing with a game you can no longer play.I can not move on and away frm it ,it is a nightmare and i don't beleive this has happened to anyone to such an extent before.

I don't recall darts being bloody....though I suppose it could be at a pub in the UK.

I think perhaps you are obsessing over it much in the same manner a gambler might obsess over gambling.

Perhaps you should take up some other sport to dissipate the energy. Perhaps jogging.

I'd recommend seeing a sports psychologist for your disappointment. Perhaps finding books written by athletes that lost their game/skills to see how they dealt with the disappointment, how they regained them or how they handled the realignment of their life? Have you talked to a sports coach, is there one that you were working with prior to this setback? If the problem is serious enough but your love of the game persists, possibly become a coach yourself?

You need to break the obsession cycle and then redirect yourself. If it is serious enough, maybe you need to see a regular psychologist, one who can help with the depression, anxiety and distress, without specializing in sports. Quite possibly this is addictive behavior as well, as previously suggested?