No one to share your special interest with?

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I get into my college work and I confuse my family with what I say. I'm seeking an AA degree right now yet mom/dad don't even have GED's so even the most basic college stuff is over there heads. I was telling dad about a tv show and he said "Are tv shows all you talk about?!" I then shut my mouth. I thought a WP friend would be on Skype but getting ahold of him is hit/miss since he is usually online with someone else!! !! Sure I got good grades and my parents are proud of me (or so they say) and yet if I have my TRUE obsessive Aspie nature of tossing myself into my college work (That's "not normal") I enjoy WP for family help and a poster Conundrum to PM back forth but sometimes you wish you knew someone face to face.

A friend to sit and watch the Series finale of Smallville with me and we could have geeked out the the episode together. I could toss Psychology research ideas or what I've learned today in a class and not get confusing rude answers back. Example: Mom: What did you do today? Me: Learned about Sigmund Freud. Her: WHO?! Me: He did dream interpretation Her: WHAT THE HELL IS THAT I DON'T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT THAT s**t! FOR GOD SAKE I'M NOT AN NT!! !! I'M NOT ONE TO SAY OMG THAT TEST WAS KIND OF HARD I'M ENGAGED IN THE COLLEGE MATERIAL!! ! Sadly I feel even if I did meet a friend or boyfriend they will not fit what I want. Interested to talk about the same movie/show interests I have at the time as well as with an intelligent brain and is engaged in College work!! !! Does anyone get where I'm coming from?

Very few people are interested in my special interests. It is kind of the nature of special interests.

I find the same thing about me. I don't really care. I just don't wish to be singled out and attacked on the account of them.

Good points. I don't like being singled out either. My Aspie college obsessiveness and being told that's not normal was hurtful. I agree that's the nature of have special interest. I don't think ANYONE will fit my needs. They might have movie/show obsessions but would be totally different than mine or different college major/topic interests. One of the downsides of Aspieness to me.

I wish I had a friend that loved languages like me. I love to talk about them, and teach people about them, but unfortunately none of the very few people (if any) interested in ever talking to me care about languages.

I always wished I had a clone of myself to talk to sometimes. That would be awesome. I would totally volunteer to have myself cloned.

You need new parents.

And I wish I could geek it up with you about Smallville. I'm not fan but Michael Shanks guest starred as Hawkman and so I'm at least interested in the series now.

As for me I struggle to share my special interests with others too. My sisters is the type to call you a nerd and think that what she's into is better. We do have a sort of scifi fan staying in the house but we have conflicting opinions.

I understand how you feel. When I was obsessed with Hellsing and Trinity Blood, I had no one to share it with. There aren't very many anime fans in Idaho, and those who are are mostly interested in the mainstream stuff like Naruto and Death Note. I started coming to WP while I was still obsessed with Hellsing/Trinity Blood, but even though I found other fans, admittedly I alienated myself from them by having a bad attitude and being rude. Not saying that's what you're doing, but that's what I personally did.

Which languages?

My shelves have books with titles like "The Rhaeto-Romance Languages" and "Old Church Slavic". I rarely talk about them though - they are my little private world. Most people I know would just look puzzled, even concerned sometimes, that I was interested in such things.

Languages are such a huge field that two people could have special interests in languages with very little overlap. I probably would have only a polite interest in some languages, not because I look down on them (I don't) but just because I never "fell in love with them".

Yeah, most people think I'm weird for being into languages. For them, spending ones free time on intellectual pursuits is strange; they'd rather go drink at bars or go to parties.

I am currently learning Basque. I also love dead languages (Latin, Sumerian, Ancient Greek, and Old Irish, English, and Norse especially), all 6 Celtic languages, Altaic languages (Mongolian and Manchu especially), and various others (For example: Faeroese, Georgian, Nahuatl, Latvian). Those are most my favorite languages.

I have several "odd" books too, like The Little Prince in Maltese, a German<>Luxembourgish dictionary, The Klingon Dictionary, and the like. Rhaeto-Rumantsch is cool.

I'm always eager to teach people what I've learned about languages, and am always happy to listen to others talk about what they know, and learn new things from them. But yes, there are very many languages in the world, and some people like some that most have never heard of, which I think is a good thing.

My interests lay currently in explaining and predicting human behaviour, haven't got books about it but I do read-up on internet articles and bounce them off people in my enviroment - but I can rarely go to the depth I would like to go since I seem to lose people in my theorizing.

But specifically to you, i'd say why don't you go to a psychology forum to atleast get some like-minded contacts?

I've found people on facebook that share my interests, but no-one in real life it seems. Instead I just bombard my friends and relatives with facts and other things hoping that they might show atleast an ounce of interest for that one moment.

Ooh, that's one of my interests too. I'm really into anthropology, so I'm always explaining human behaviour in anthropological terms. It's fun, and it's all true as well at the end of the day. And I do actually use the Greek alphabet sometimes to work out how popular people are at college or something.

How does that work? Do popular people either know or not know all the letter names or something?

Thanks for all the support. I also tell my gaming/tv/college interest and my family could care less.

You take the same approach as me.

I do have some people IRL who I can talk to about my interest. It's music, and I study it at university, which gives me an hour and a half per week of private tuition for my major, and I'm in an orchestra.
I find that the internet is good for finding people who can respond with something more than "Wow, you know so much".