Do you get tired of people? Is it just me or AS?

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Just wondering... is anyone like this?

When I am with people, be it my boss, my friends, some other people I know or even a date, sometime I just get ... tired of being there. For no reason I can think of. I don't know how to describe it well. It's like I just suddenly _need_ to be alone. So I almost stop speaking to people, my replies become... minimal. Even if I try to stay in the conversation, everything I end up saying is irrelevant. So usually I just quit, telling people some lame excuse. Or worse, I continue to listen to them but with my "bored guy" face.

Anyone ever felt like this??

I don't think that is necessarily AS-related.

Tim

Dragonrider: YES

Yes, I often get that. I feel terribly narcissistic sometimes because I’d much rather be alone with my own thoughts than listen to a bunch of other people chatter. I used to feel terribly awkward about leaving until I learned about the “social excuse.” “I have to go and…” make something up if you have to. It’s also called “the social lie.” It’s what we do to avoid hurting NTs feelings. Often, they even know we’re lying, but they appreciate our consideration for their feelings. Imagine that.

Some social situations can be extremely exhausting. It's because you're having to analyze and think about social things that are intuitive to NTs. For me, it really depends. If I'm with a lot of people, I can get exhausted pretty quickly unless I can get away from most of them for periods of time, like at a party that has fractured into different rooms. At a big dinner for instance, even though I may be enjoying myself, I get tired because my guard is up so I don't make an ass of myself.

I dont knoew if this is AS as I dont know if I amAS....but my vote is....constantly.Two reasons...the few times I am in the company of people I really like and find interesting....still very tiring...now adays,because there is "no smoking" every where ...I can go take time outs...."breathers...ironic,considering i am breathing noxiouse fumes"but it helps...I still have a time limit to the amount of over all energ I have.


More often...I find myself wishing I was home reading...sometimes when I would decide not to do somethinfg "social" it was because I couldnt imagine the group of people saying anything as funny,interesting or informative as some thing I could be reading...Thats one reason I use to like snowey or rainy days...great excuse to sit inside and read without the "guilt" of not socializing...
I am so over the guilt now...I very rarely socialize.

It is one of the most constant emotions that Aspies feel IMO.
Because if you're very different & working hard to cope with sensory stimulation (noise etc), conversation comprehension (both ways) & occasionally complete eejits then it IS completely exhausting at times & I find I have to run for cover more often than not & have few days off from it or I'll start to get more stressed & eventually if no relief is provided from it then I'll have a complete meltdown.

That only proves once again that NTs are subhuman idiots.

No they're just from a different planet, with a different and very sophisticated way of interacting with each other. They understand this innately. Name-calling is childish behavior.

I'm NT and I get like that quite a lot. Sometimes I just can't be bothered with people, and I'm really happy with my partner in his Aspie isolation. I get my social stimulation at work.

Yeah.

Sometimes I just can't be bothered and like to be on my own, do what I want to do, when I want to do it without someone breathing down my neck.

This is why I value singleness, and I need to keep reminding myself that it's the best way to be.

I do know what you mean and I used to feel like that, but I realised that its ok to be the quiet one and to sit back and watch.

Sometimes people say things and I might say something relevant, but generally am happy to be quiet and watch the conversation.

I think it helps if you're with people you know.

Sometimes if I can't go away I'll zone out, and then get accused of being bored (I don't like to make people feel bad, especially if they're friends).
Anyway zoning out can be almost as good as getting away.

Yes I feel like that really often. According some sociologists I had to talk to to learn to get on with AS, they told it happens a lot with Aspies.

I do fine with certain people for a little while..but then I generally need to be alone. I will be fine and then all the sudden need out, and need to be alone.

If I cant get away, things get bad in a hurry. But I have become fairly good at restraining myself (not saying something mean, etc)

I've allways had this problem, socialising is vry tiring after a few hours and i will zone out or desperatly want to go home, i will also freeze and move away from the others in the room in an effort to relax. In places like clubs and pubs ( which i hate and rarely go too) toilets are a great place to go to get peace and quiet for a few minutes.
I've always known that these social problems were strange and know else i knew ever seemed ot have them.....until now