Sensitivity to others social inadequacies

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Do any of you find you're sensitive to other people's social inadequacies?

Generally rude people stick out, but I'm talking more about poor social skills or social faux pas.
People often don't seem to see what they've done or if they do it rolls off them, but as you're on the outside looking in you seem more aware of these social trip-ups - when I notice them I feel embarrassed and uncomfortable for a while afterwards.

For example;
When I was 9 my family went to the beach, my mother sat down on a chair to chat to my aunt for a minute - my granddad made a comment to my uncle under his breath that he'd brought the chair for him to sit on, not her - my mother was oblivious. This would have been forgotten by my granddad mere minutes later, but that day it caused me to shut-down scared of tripping-up like my mother.

It's not that bad these days, but when someone makes a little social trip-up it's like it's SCREAMING at me and makes me very uncomfortable, I don't know why - anyone else ever get anything like this?

I cringe when I see that, and marvel at how fluidly the NT-ish can move on without making a big deal of it. If I feel imposed upon, it doesn't make much difference whether the imposer follows Social Rules or not: I usually shut down at least for a micro-second, and it shows.

I don't usually notice, or care about, these sorts of things.

^ I would say the same thing as above. In fact, it is often me creating the embarassing situation.

This describes me very well. However, when I am not the one on the outside looking in, I am much more likely to be the one making the mistake. I am a very good observer, but find it hard to take a step back looking in on a situation I have immersed myself in.