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22 May 2011, 2:52 pm

Why can infringing on someone's personal space cause someone to intensely hate you?

I don't viscerally understand it. Honestly, I'd even feel flattered if someone invaded my personal space... Like, if someone sent me a facebook friend request.

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She may have been being nice. One of my students sent me a message on facebook and the situation was such that it actually was appropriate. However, outside of this one specific case, I would probably rip a students head off for doing that. Facebook is personal to a vast majority of people and just deciding to message them one day would be akin to looking up their home phone number and just giving them a call out of the blue.



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22 May 2011, 2:56 pm

It pisses me off when someone infringes my physical personal space. I dislike when someone stands too close to me in a conversation.



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22 May 2011, 3:02 pm

Personal space is like personal property - you don't want someone coming along and messing with your stuff without your permission.


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22 May 2011, 3:06 pm

Facebook friend requests are relatively meaningless to me and I don't understand how they would impinge on anyone's personal space. I either know the person or I do not.

Similar for most other social networks, I think.

When people impinge upon my physical personal space I find it very agitating and frustrating, but this is related to my proprioception problems. Since I can't predict where they will move and I am not sure where I am relative to them, I feel like I am at risk of a collision at any moment.



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22 May 2011, 3:11 pm

A ring of the phone or the ding of an incoming e-mail does not bother me unless/until I might soon learn the other person is being far too assuming about something. In the real-life physical sense, however, being within reach of me is far too close unless/until something quite necessary actually requires that.


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22 May 2011, 9:45 pm

You're KIDDING, right!?!?!? Let's see.... I work to sit in my OWN space and don't avoid ANYONE elses space. why should THEY go out of their way to invade mine, spit in my face, disrupt my train of thought, restrict my movement, etc... I once threw fries at a guy because HIS eating MY fris that I paid for made them something I wouldn't eat. Last week, avoiding a spitter that restricted my arm room, he acually got up and moved right NEXT to me! I was put in he SAME position. The table was a LITTLE bigger, but still....