franknfurter wrote:
Has anyone ever experienced an intense feeling that something is wrong with the enviroment but don’t know what it is. It makes me feel strange, anxious and lost.
Let me introduce you to the gorilla in the middle of the room. A literal, human tyrant that’s too powerful to challenge, or a situation that is beyond your control. Maybe you already know at some level, but you don’t want to know, because the actions you would need to take are too difficult or truly impossible. I know I’m not good at denial, and once I wake up to a bad situation, I can’t go back to sleep. I think it’s an Aspie thing, and that other people go into denial more easily than I do and can stay in it more comfortably.
Maybe the job or home-life is just unworkable, but you can’t move on, so you tell yourself this detail or that detail is not so bad and to buck up. And they’re probably not so bad, one issue at a time. But when you put it all together, it forms a picture that no one should have to live with. Or maybe you’re under age, stuck in the military, prison, or for some other reason really can’t leave, and denial is the only way to keep your balance. It’s a useful defense mechanism for a slave or prisoner. Sometimes I wish I had it.
Some of the most popular choices are:
1. Address the monster head-on and risk the consequences;
2. Take your drugs and shut up, and die young from some stress-related illness;
3. Buck up, internalize the system or situation that's making you miserable, and become the tyrant yourself.
(I'm in a really sour mood today.)