3 diff doctors told me i dont have autism

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But I am totally socially isolated

Dont understand socializing

cant make eye contact

have no facial expression most of the time

Haave alot of anxiety issues

alot of repetitive thoughts

i like to spin things

i had deep obsessions as a child

monotone voice

feel very different from people i went to high school with

am a complete loner

feel lonely

virgin

many people say im weird / quiet

ive been quiet most of my life

feel that i cant think straight

underweight

told i am lazy alot

have a strange look

opposite of enthusiastic

But 3 different doctors have told you you aren't autistic.

Many of the things you've listed aren't even particularly autistic traits as such anyway.

Although obviously, I don't know you so I can't really judge.

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What did they say? be specific, why don't they think you are autistic?

What kind of doctors? A podiatrist might be good at feet issues but know nothing about autism.

You might not be autistic then, is that such a bad thing?

I went to a psychologist for the first time when I was in high school. They were testing me for learning disabilities. I had some major trouble with executive functioning. My IQ test was very characteristic of an aspie (very high verbal, very low working memory, very low social comprehension) he also said that I needed help to make my thinking more flexible, and I needed to work on my social skills. He specifically mentioned eye contact. I was always very good at music and I was winning piano competitions, but I could not find friends. He gave me a facial memory test and I did very poorly on that (prosopagnosia). My mom also told him about my very poor directional skills (topical agnosia). Both of those conditions can sometimes be found along side AS. Even after all that, he still didn't recommend that I be tested for AS. I guess it probably was because I'm a girl and AS is harder to spot because females tend to mask the condition more than males.

Anyway, I was diagnosed in college by my university's psychology department. It really depends on who you go to. Try to find a doctor who is experienced in diagnosing adults.

SOME of what you said are not autistic diagnostic criteria and may or may not represent in some people with autism (ie. being underweight. I am fat. I am also definitely autistic. There are others, but that is just one example).

Other things are autistic-like, but COULD have a different root.

I don't know....if you said one doctor said you don't have autism and gave me that list, I might tell you to go get a second opinion. But you did that. And a third opinion too. I don't think you can keep going to doctor after doctor until someone says what you want to hear. On the other hand, they can't just say "no" and not give you an explanation. Maybe they did give you a further explanation? They should be telling you WHY they cannot diagnose you with autism. And if you they are saying not autism, are they giving you another diagnosis? I ask because some traits do fit under autism AND other conditions (similar symptoms, different reasons for the manifestation of the symptom), and you might find that the other label might actually fit more.

And I guess I am sufficiently unimpressed with the mental health profession, that I don't consider three doctors in a row to be all that unexpected. (Plus, as a sports fan, I know streaks of three in a row happen all the time)

For example, a while back, we had a post where some psychologist told a person if they’ve had even one friend in their life, they cannot be autistic (!) (!) (!) Yes, really. And this psychologist has a degree? Yes, apparently he or she does. (speaking personally, some periods in my life I have not had a friend, and during such periods it would be hard not to overtry. other times I have had a friend, other times I've thought I've had a friend but haven't, I'm learning I need to very much take it medium-step by medium-step)

Psychologists can help us. But we should not let them run the show. We need to primarily educate ourselves.

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And a less good professional, if someone walks in there saying anything, saying 'I think I have bipolar' for example, the doctor rather thinks that he or she needs to find something else in order to "earn" their money and almost takes it as an affront that the patient is doing the doctor's "job." A better professional views it as information and continues the conversation. 'Oh, why's that. Okay, alright, tell me a little bit more.' And then to summarize 'I'm going to do a complete diagnosis. And ________ is certainly one of the things I'm going to consider. But to do the best job for you, I'm going to consider a range of possible explanations' (and maybe shorter on this part, for a good professional can be both brief and respectful)

Hey--that helping ourselves idea might work!

Wouldn't it be easier to identify Asperger's at an Aspie or Autism support meeting, as opposed to online?

Pardon me, I could be wrong...but it would seem that one needs to establish a common thread in your life that one could follow. For instance, I would say the following (short version):