ASP symptoms?

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Hi to everyone,

I have been doing google searches over different symptoms that I display and it keeps bringing me to wrong planet. I have been reading the forums and decided to ask for a little help. I know that no one can diagnose me via internet but maybe you guys can help me understand if some of my symptoms are Asp or not. Pleas help because it is really destroying my job and family.

First off, I am 30 year old male. I noticed when I was just a kid that I had problems socializing. I felt that socializing was a book and I was reading a different chapter than everyone else. I did not respond well in social situations. I do know that throughout my child hood I was good at pretending to fit in but deep inside I knew that something was different. Its kind of sad but a few of my teachers looked down on me because I did not exactly go with the flow.

I played sports and was pretty athletic during school. I am still physically fit and do work out just to help myself to cope with my situation. I never got in a fight though. I was terrified of the whole situation. Not because I was afraid of getting hurt but because I did not want to be embarrassed.

I know that when I was young I used to be obsessed with words and misspelling them would irritate me. This actually helped me win a few spelling b's.

I also noticed that certain situations gave me this deep dreadful feeling in my gut that made me feel shameful and very uncomfortable in certain situations. I am not really sure what brought it on but sometimes it just happened.

In my adult life I noticed that I say things at the wrong moment. I say things that people take as rude when I feel like I am just being direct. I do not pick up on social cues and my mind always wanders. This has caused me to have very few friends and in a job situation it has caused me social anxiety to the point where I seek jobs where I don't have to communicate with people but I know that I should be doing something more to use my skills.

I do not like to be touched because it irritates me even when the toucher is my wife. The only exception is when I am ready to be intimate with her. The rest just seems like a waste of time. This and my directness is causing major problems in my marriage. I also do not like to be bothered when performing a task that interest me.

I have good memory but I do not remember details. It just seems useless to me and if something is not important or not interesting then I will forget it. The only exception to that rule is numbers. I remember number patterns and always try to break down a set of numbers to balance them out. I never took advanced math or physics in school but am in IT school and soon will find out how good my math skills are.
I have an obsession with politics and policies. I also have this knack for catching beautiful photography anywhere so everyone can see the artistic beauty from my perspective.
I believe that Aspergers is not a disorder. I believe that they are the people who were created to perform certain tasks that others can not do as well.
I feel that I am an intelligent person but I grew up in a traditional southern family who in no way encouraged me to educate myself or further my education. They just labeled me as different and settled with that.
I just want to know if anybody can relate to me. So at least maybe I can figure out what exactly is wrong with me I will be able to move on with life. I do not have health insurance and the free clinic in Nashville does not diagnose this disorder.
Thanks to all who took the time to read my post.

Don't think there's so much to feel sorry about! You'we written your thoughts, and feelings, down.
And as is, i can only say Welcome!! ! - You're not alone... Actually a lot of Your writing makes, a little to much, sence.

Try to have a peek here. - And, also make a search for "Aspie-quiz", AQ, EQ and SQ.
It won't give You a diagnosis. But, will help, make You understand Yourself a little better.
- And give Your wife, and You, something to talk about. As to make new strategies, to ease your situation.

Hope abowe is to, somewhat, little help...
My best wishes for Your wife and You!! !

By the way, im diagnosed Aspie. And apart from sports, theres a few things i recognise, from Your post.


Sorry, if my english is a little clumsy. But i have a heck of a headache, and native language is Danish.

Thank you for the info and quick reply. I think your english is quite good actually especially for a second language.

Thank You!

And i hope You will gain some more insight. And peace of mind...!

Wow!! ! that link really helped man. I have so many symptoms. Especially being hyper sensitive to light sound and noise. I did not think also that using a box fan to help me sleep could be a symptom either.
Another thing is the trouble with volume and speed of speech. I have really been trying here lately to sound more upbeat and positive but it never happens and I hate it when somebody asks me to speak louder and I sound a bit crazy.
There is so much more that relates to me in that link. I know that I am not supposed to diagnose myself but I believe that I am my best advocate.

Only pleased to help You/you

Hope it'll be giving you a "fresh start"! And remember, if You'we got a problem, its most likely theres something written in here, that can be You to guidance and inspiration. - And, if not, were all here to help and support each other!

Best regards!