Why are people so mean to us?

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I am male and 17 on the ASD and I always wonder why are people so rude and mean to me when I did nothing wrong? Many people would say that "I am to easy to pick on" or that "I am easy to get away with" and I think that is true becasue a lot of people like to pick on me and I don't even know that it is happening to me. I get made fun of and I would just act like I didn't know it. A lot of people hate me at school for some reason and I did nothing to deserve it. People would be nice to me for a time and then they would be mean and I don't even know why they are like that.

You consider yourself a victim. This affects your attitude and behavior. People pick up on your sense of "victimhood" and exploit it to feed their own egos.

When I stopped thinking of myself as a victim, people soon stopped treating me like one.

And some people are just d!cks.

There may be lots of reasons. For example: picking on you makes them feel superior to you, they may be afraid of you, or in most primitive societies like ours "different" people or strangers are to be feared. Just ignore them. They aren't worth your time and effort worrying about them. Your self worth is not determined by anyone else but you.

It is socially acceptable to be mean to Autistic people.

High school students are just plain rude and mean and obsessed with being popular and cool. High School was hands down the worst time in my life. College was waaay better. Hang in there. The adult world, IMO is alot more tolerant of quirkiness than the teen world

Sometimes it's because we're mean to them too, often without meaning to be.

I've had the same problem for most of my life.....its not so bad now since I am not going to public school where I had to deal with peoples crap constantly. But still even in the real world that exists after you graduate highschool there are people who judge and there are people who still seem to have the highschool mentality. But anyways enough about that.....I honestly believe anyone who torments someone because they are 'easy to pick on' is weak, I mean what does picking on someone who has enough trouble as it is prove? It sucks that you have to deal with that but try and remember they are the ones with the problem.

Sometimes we can see ourselves as the victim when really we are not. We may be doing something wrong and not even know it but they don't know we are innocent about it. They just assume we are doing it intentionally.

From what I have gathered online at Babycenter, from the attitudes I have seen from women and how they process information and interpret things, I discovered I maybe come off as rude to people or judgmental because they misinterpret me. So that could explain the unfriendliness I get or the rudeness because I am being ignored. But all it did was it got me more paranoid so I am even more quiet and too even afraid to socialize fearing I might say something wrong. So this could be the case with you. Maybe you are saying something wrong and the people are interpreting it differently. I have also noticed online that people love to pick on others when they think that person was rude or judgmental. But to me they come off as bullies even NTs get the same crap there. I even think they love to take things out of context because they just want to argue. In real life I don't know what they are like. Part of me thinks this and the other part of me thinks they do it because they felt they have been judged and felt the person had been rude to time to make fun of them and be all hostile to them and rude. But to me the OP always looks innocent and I always think "Can they even correct the OP in a nice way than being all rude and nasty, I'd just shut them out if they did that to me." These women are not rational at all. Sure these things may happen to NTs too but it sure happens to us also. But these women are still jerks, end of story. Post a thread there, be prepared for the attacks. Then they get mad when you hair flip, a term they use for when you leave your thread and not come back, same as when you don't keep arguing with them or backing up your thoughts. I even found out they will try and egg you to hair flip by doing things like be rude or just wanting to argue or posting images to spam your thread. You can't win.


But often we don't understand what we did wrong to set someone off. To our point of view, we are always the victims. So I am sure to other peoples point of views, we are playing the victim. Even if we did know what set someone off, we still think we didn't do anything wrong and the other person is just mean and that it's their problem, not ours.

I think another perspective is we are easy targets for a general angst within western culture, and a whipping boy is usually at hand for the many nasty humanoids driven by poor animalistic ethics typical of NT

Hermits who lived in caves and the mountains..... when they appeared in a village, were treated with suspicion. Reasonably often they would be blamed for an illegitimate child, a murder or theft.

Still today we become a 'Trash Folder' or entity where a lot of ugly internal expression can be dumped on

Since we Aspergians are not instinctively programmed to behave the same and walk different, talk different, posture different......... aspies need to learn by teaching themselves how to avoid putting ourselves in dangerous company or situations. As well as learning how to fit it more and a certain expression of: 'Dont mess with me' really goes a long way.

Dogs can smell the fear on you and will bite.

Angels give you a hug. Poor kid, school is the worst and will be over soon

Because people dislike anything that challenges the norm. Simple really. Yes its incredibly stupid and pointless, but then again we ARE just angry monkeys flying through space on a rock. Don't expect much from humanity dude, we're all scumbags.