How do you react to ignorance?

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I'm just curious. It makes me wonder because I know for an adult, its even harder. If you meltdown, everyone calls you a brat or spoiled or whatever. I know they tell my mom that when I have meltdowns. I was just wondering if this ever happens to you in public where people look at you like you are an emotional idiot or have some serious mental issues? Maybe even if you go with your mom or dad or guardian, how others react?

My mom always tells them, "if you think you can do a better job of dealing with her be my guest". SHe's the kind of mom who lets me have those meltdowns because she knows its the only way I can express my frustration or amount of panic. People will tell her how bad her parenting is for someone like me and she snaps at them... I mean it sounds rude but she's basically saying it like, 'I would love to see you try and handle my child'... or something.

really the best way to deal with it is to ignore it.

What type of ignorance? I often get urges to educate people when they say something that is obviously wrong, but I have learned that this only makes me look like an ass. I need to refrain from doing that.

What are your meltdowns like?

I used to try to educate people like that and work it out, but I was rarely, if ever, successful. I've since learned that those kinds of people aren't interested in resolving their artificial conflicts, they just need validation, so I've learned how to successfully ignore them without there being a problem. You can't speak the language of logic when someone isn't literate.

I tend to associate "ignorance" with "negativity", but this still doesn't stop me from thinking "Wow, how ignorant" 291974912 times a day. I must say that I've been working on not being so fed up with stupidity, though.

I don't feel the need to educate people's ignorance unless I'm trying to develop a relationship with them. I don't have obvious meltdowns though. I have some anger issues that might be the equivalent though. I feel it's my responsibility to keep those episodes in check. Other people have a right to react when I act out and ASD is no excuse for bad behaviour. It's when my head starts shutting down because of sensory overload that I can honestly say it was from ASD.

I feel your mom reacts fine to people's ignorance.

Most of my issues come from not making enough noise rather than making too much.

I ignore it.

As far as I'm concerned there is nothing wrong with my having meltdowns - okay so I feel embarrassed and ashamed, that's my problem that I have to deal with - but to other people my having asperger's shouldn't be something they look down upon, if they don't understand asperger's or that my meltdown isn't a sign of being some sort of freak then that is THEIR problem.

If however their ignorance turns to prejudice and they try to use it against me then this is another problem all together, you bet if they discriminate against me or bully me as a result I'll try to do something about it - granted this doesn't always go well because people can just carry on being ignorant/prejudice or companies will ignore your complaints about their prejudice staff.

It takes time to combat ignorance.

I just ignore such people. There's no reason for me to play the excuse card. If people ask why the episode happened, I just tell them that I'm having a bad day. Much to my surprise, a lot of the people that I tell that to can relate, because they act the same way to a certain extent when they have a bad day, though it's more likely at home.