How would you react to being told that your kid is an aspie?

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How would you react?

Where's the "I'm neutral, I love my child either way" option?

I still voted "I'd be happy" though.

I'd be disappointed for them because I've been there, but I myself wouldn't mind who they were because I'd love them regardless.

I wouldn't care one way or the other. I'd still love my child and I wouldn't be blowing it all out of proportion.

There might need to be a more middle of the road choice. I went through a variety of emotions when I found out. I'm not sure anyone would be happy that their child would have challenges and potential difficulties in their life.

I would be happy. There's no way I could raise a NT child. "What do you mean you want to bring a friend over here for the weekend?" "Why the heck do you think you want to go to prom?" "What are you doing talking about the weather with the neighbors?" Why don't you just stay inside and play video games for once?"

It wouldn't matter to me whether they were NT or Aspie. I'd love them the same regardless.

I'we got tree kids. All of them seems to have some traits. - But "only" one need special attention...
And, as all the things I'we learned has made me a stronger person, I would not wish for anything else!
Why? AS have been giving me so many positives, that theres plenty of oppotunities!
- The kids are all racor sharp, in their own fields! Find a normal 4 to 5 yo who happens to know the names of around 20 - 30 dinosaurs. - in Latin!
Plus all the details of possible habitats ect...

It wont be easy, but as long as we can support each other... And the strengts are somewhat superiour!

As i see it. - Success, is measured, not by sociality, but in ability to move boundries!

Happy.

Obviously no matter what having a child is wonderful, and depending on how serious their problems are it may not be easy for them or for you as their parent, but I would still be proud to have an aspie child - as would my NT partner.

I was a classic example of a spectrum kid and I made it through - I didn't have a diagnosis so couldn't have gotten support even if it was available back then, but things are changing so now there's a lot more support and having been there myself I would be able to support the my child. I believe a lot of the negatives of having asperger's comes from how we're treat and how we're expected to function, although things are bad now I believe in future generations aspie minds will be appreciated - and that with the right support and encouragement that aspies are capable of far greater things than we're 'allowed' to achieve within the confines we find ourselves in today.

If I had a child who was I don't think I would need to be told. If said hypothetical child was I think I would have a reasonable idea that they were, but I would try to get confirmation.

I don't think that their neurotype would influence my happiness, but their level of functioning might.

God help any child born to me!

Still if I ever reproduce (which, as much as I want kids, for the child's best interest, I shouldn't), I would want it to have ASD. I mean, obviously I would love it anyway, but I can relate to ASD child more. There is no way I could raise an NT child to be a successful NT adult.

I raised one of each. But both of mine are also gifted. Still the AS one was actually easier for me except for managing the bullying and the meltdowns. The NT one was "clingy" and bizzare on a lot of levels to me. That said, she adored and loved me from the day she came out until now. I am best friends with both my children. But I consider myself very lucky... If my AS kid were more severe I could not have managed raising her.

So I guess the answer really is... It depends. Is the AS kid actually able to have a good quality of life?