How to deal with agression

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For some time I have been feeling rising agresion in me against everybody with whom I have to interact: coworkers, my boss, even people on the street. I feel envy that they are normal, that have normal relationship and normal life. And then I am thinking that this is their fault that I am isolated from society.
How to deal with such destructive feelings? It burns me out... Does anyone have experienced such states of mind?

Its hard but somehow you have to find a way to stop measuring yourself against others, its built into every humans subconcious. I cant give you any clear guidelines on how to do it i wish i could. I still do it myself too but to a far lesser extent then some years ago, instead of going sour that i do not enjoy social gatherings like others do i am fine with not attending at all now.

Just know that you will have to learn to accept yourself for who you are, nobody can tell you how to do it. Most people struggle with this their whole life they might look fine on the outside but you never know what goes on inside keep that in mind. The seemingly succesfull people can really suprise you in that regard.

If these feelings are very strong, or are becoming stronger, and they are a change in your usual emotional state, then it is really worth visiting your doctor to explain how you feel. You may be at risk of depression or harmful behaviour.

I (and probably many others) have such feelings of resentment and anger. The constant stress of dealing with them can be very tiring. Having good emotional outlets (friendships, music, art, sport etc), developing a sense of personal self worth, satisfaction from your work or hobbies and personal space are very important. When things are very bad then counselling, psychotherapy and drugs can help.

I always just bottle it up until the pressure gets too much, then I end up having some sort of private internal meltdown, or if I'm alone I just go a bit mental and start beating everything around me to pulp. Then deeply regret it all afterwards. Very rarely other people might witness this, but this has only happened a few times in my whole life, and it's usually because they were the ones that provoked my little rampage in the first place. I feel ashamed after moments like this. But at least they then get to suffer as much as me.

If I feel particularly angry with something / someone and can't let my aggresion out (eg. if I'm at work) I usually just end up trying all my usual distraction techniques which involve stimming like a loon and making everyone around me think I'm ret*d, which only provokes more ignorant giggling from them. Of course, this just makes the situation even worse.

Either way, I don't deal with it very well.

I don't really have many suggestions for how to deal with aggresion though. (If I did I wouldn't have just posted what I did). But I suppose finding a hobby, interest etc. would be a good way to go. Also, perhaps just try to remember that you are nothing more than a tiny speck of dust in the universe (if that isn't too dismal for you). I feel that this relieves a lot of tension, and just brings things into perspective.

Good point. Don't take granted what people show about themselves in interactions, you'd be surprised if you'd known.

I also agree with the suggestions about hobbies, sports etc., counseling or taking advices from parents and friends, but be aware that eventually it's you who has to make decisions and face its consequences whatever they might be. This is very important. You have to take perspective and acquire critical thinking to be able to stand on your feet without too much disturbance from negative feelings. This is not a process of perfection, a fairly good level is acceptable.