Why do people stare/look at me in the restarurant?

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29 May 2011, 6:12 pm

So, I deliver pizzas for a restaruant and I swear people alwasy at tables keep looking at me. Im always walking in and out and through them all.

Now I fear that Im really ugly or ahve weird face so they are like wtf is this dude and keep staring?

Or it could be

1. I walk real weird and they think Im odd

2. walking + general mannerisms etc..I look odd?

Also my boss told me I need to dress smarter and get a haircut. I thought I looked ok ah well shows what I know.

Or maybe its the way I look+dress+walk+mannerisms. (+ talk if they hear me?)

Also I have a staring problem also, if I see a hot girl I notice I keep taking glacnes at her. Its like I know Im doing it but ant stop, it seems ok to me but others will prob think I lok weird keep starign at a person voer and over and over..If I notice someone looking at me I keep staring at them also.

Anyway it makes me even more self consious. So, I really hate it now.

Next time I gonna wear jeans, smart balck trainers, nice jumper adn trim my hair, hpefully thats better but man Im only delivering pizzas wtf.

Anyway I know I walk odd. I mean I walk about the resautant when i walk in and out adn its full off people like Im freaking out with overload everytime I walk in..its like ZOMG!! lights, noise, people, sounds etc..etc..overload..I storm in and to the kitchen with my head down like on a mission.

One time I heard a women say is that guy on drugs...huh story off my like, people always thought I was on drugs at school etc. even when I wasnt.

Truth be told by choice I woudl never ever ever ever go in a resatutant voluntarity. I should not even have this job and its only deliveing pizzas wtf lol..Cant even do a simple fukin job!! !

Well I am pushing my limit zone everytime I do this job. Its just embarassing though. To have people watch me and think im an oddball.

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29 May 2011, 7:05 pm

You wouldn't want to be a waiter then. When they come out, every one stares and looks, wanting their meal. It doesn't matter if an averege person is at a different table. They were hopeing the waiter was bringing something. It's very common, so try to stop hateing yourself. oo pizza.

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29 May 2011, 7:10 pm

LiendaBalla wrote:

:) You wouldn't want to be a waiter then. When they come out, every one stares and looks, wanting their meal. It doesn't matter if an averege person is at a different table. They were hopeing the waiter was bringing something. It's very common, so try to stop hateing yourself. oo pizza.

haha Id hate to be a waiter lol.

Im not hating me Im just being paranoid?

I dunno if its common to stare at the pizza delviry guy though

Unless he looks funny lol

Well there was these 2 girsl like 14/15 at a amily dinner and they kept smiling and laugihng over at me and then kept walkign up alongside me and smiling. Then they asked to go into the kitchen goodness knows why but the boss let them and they were walking past me and I siad hi and they were like smiling nad laughing.

So, maybe they want me haha.

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29 May 2011, 7:10 pm

People are probably just staring out of curiosity and because they are waiting for food and you're bringing some in.

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29 May 2011, 9:06 pm

peko is probably right. Who knows though? if you dress odd, or have long hair, ESPECIALLY in an upscale restaurant, people may stare.

aspardon wrote:

Also I have a staring problem also, if I see a hot girl I notice I keep taking glacnes at her. Its like I know Im doing it but ant stop, it seems ok to me but others will prob think I lok weird keep starign at a person voer and over and over..If I notice someone looking at me I keep staring at them also.

Join the club! I do the same. It is like subconciously my body is trying to tell me something. But I try and catch it and not make it obvious. Besides, she might not know your intentions and assume the worst.

BTW to any women that may wonder? Usually I notice something similar about the woman, see similarities to a friend, or just really think she is cute! SOMETIMES, I physically feel she is very pretty, and logically see her as plain, and end up trying to figure out why there is a disparity. Anyway, a lot of times she doesn't fit what I would want, so I wouldn't approach her even if I were someone freely given to act in such a manner. MOST, that I learn more about, for example, are married, or have a very close boyfriend.

aspardon wrote:

Anyway I know I walk odd. I mean I walk about the resautant when i walk in and out adn its full off people like Im freaking out with overload everytime I walk in..its like ZOMG!! lights, noise, people, sounds etc..etc..overload..I storm in and to the kitchen with my head down like on a mission.

OK, you NAILED IT! Try o come in another way and be more confident.

aspardon wrote:

One time I heard a women say is that guy on drugs...huh story off my like, people always thought I was on drugs at school etc. even when I wasnt.

If you walk odd, and react odd, people will just ASSUME that!

aspardon wrote:

Well I am pushing my limit zone everytime I do this job. Its just embarassing though. To have people watch me and think im an oddball.

Isn't nearly everyone on this forum, myself included, an oddball? HEY, I've SEEN "normal"! I HATE IT! If not being "normal" is being an oddball, then I want to be an oddball!! !!

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30 May 2011, 9:59 am

2ukenkerl wrote:

peko is probably right. Who knows though? if you dress odd, or have long hair, ESPECIALLY in an upscale restaurant, people may stare.

aspardon wrote:

OK, you NAILED IT! Try o come in another way and be more confident.

aspardon wrote:

One time I heard a women say is that guy on drugs...huh story off my like, people always thought I was on drugs at school etc. even when I wasnt.

If you walk odd, and react odd, people will just ASSUME that!

aspardon wrote:

Well I am pushing my limit zone everytime I do this job. Its just embarassing though. To have people watch me and think im an oddball.

good points. lol.

I sometimes watch guys at the pub next to the restautnt when Im in the car. And its the oddballs who are best lol, the dudes that look and act funny, the others are just boring lol.

THe ones that dress a bit odd also. Like the other night this dude looked so cool, he had these huge nike air jordans with green nike tick on them. And he was just doing all these funny movements and stuff. I was loling at the guy but he looked cool and caught my attnetion.

As for coming in the resuatant..its hardcore,,,,people, noise, lights, no space, etc..etc...I find it stress. And walking to kitchen to get pizzas etc at aback off resatuant is a mission. Im not sure how I should do it. try to walk slower? walk with my head up? etc...I dont know

Isn't nearly everyone on this forum, myself included, an oddball? HEY, I've SEEN "normal"! I HATE IT! If not being "normal" is being an oddball, then I want to be an oddball!! !!

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30 May 2011, 10:35 am

aspardon wrote:

first of all, if it makes you uncomfortable to have people staring at you, then you apply that knowledge to your own situation and stop staring at hot women like that. you are probably making them equally uncomfortable. you know it doesn't feel good when i happens to you, so maybe stop doing it to other people. it can also get you into trouble at your job - all it takes is some customer complaints that you are staring at people.

second of all - the reason why people are probably staring is because humans are instinctively drawn to look at objects in motion. this helped us with our hunting skills in prehistoric times. so in a restaurant, if you are constantly walking past people, they will instinctively look at you.

once they notice you, they will probably wonder who you are and where you are going. they may notice details about you, so if you are concerned about it then maybe try to look your very best and try to look confident or smile so that you can feel like they will be impressed.

but mostly the people are probably thinking something like this:

*glances at you*
"who is that? hmmm he is carrying pizza. where is my pizza?"
*continues to look in your general direction but not noticing intentionally staring*
"i'm hungry and i need to finish up here so i can go get the drycleaning. i wonder how many delivery drivers they have here. this place is busy today."

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30 May 2011, 10:43 am

hyperlexian wrote:

aspardon wrote:

thanks thats a really good write up.

I see what you are saying.

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30 May 2011, 10:46 am

aspardon wrote:

thanks thats a really good write up.

I see what you are saying.

you're welcome!

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