Friendly jibes and insults

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Have you ever tried to use them, only to have the person not respond positively?
I find that non-serious insults are a common and beloved aspect of socializing among comrades, and of course I attempted one a few times. It only ended with me awkwardly apologizing with my hands up, and being worried that the person thought I was being serious.

Yeah, if your demeanor isn't exactly right, they will read it the wrong way. I've had that happen to me. The pitfalls of having a stony face.

Yeah I have on occasion, although usually they don't get pissed just say my name and . Although, when I do use an accurate insult (Ex. when my one guy friend brought up my butt again, I proceeded to say that maybe God didn't give him an ass b/c he is one... ) the person is in shock and they're usually complimentary. But usually I just say and ask stupid stuff that they tell me to stop screaming in public... .

I will do it if I feel I can get away with it, though sometimes I get it wrong, though it is rare.

Too much of what is joking among 'neurotypicals' (no such thing as normal anyway!) blurs into meanspirited.

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A friendly nickname might be another thing. One of the people who helps organize our chess club I referred to as "Coach" and he seemed to like it.

I guess it's a good thing that I don't do "mean-spirited" very well, then.

This and using sarcasm are the two things I get wrong far too often.

I know what I mean, so why does everyone choose to misunderstand me?

I think "among comrades" is a very key element of that, and even then people tend to "keep score" and to then also "even the score" from time to time ...

... and since all of that is just too much for serious-minded me anyway, I try to just leave it alone altogether unless making a comment that actually fits all of us at once.

Sometimes I greet my friends with

"Yo dickholes!"

They usually just find that funny xD

If I used a friendly jibe or insult on somebody, they always take it seriously. But when somebody else does, they automatically know it's a joke.
Like on Facebook I saw that one of my cousin's friends wrote to her, ''hey dick-face, how did your night go? Did you b***h out?'' (whatever that means). And my cousin wrote a friendly answer back. And I thought, but if that was me who wrote that she would have taken it really seriously and think I was insulting her.

I think there's an unspoken permission thing going on in these matters. You have to know them long enough and well enough and have that kind of repartee already established in some way. I save time by not trying, usually. It's not really my nature.

i never understood it. why insult somebody who has done you no wrong? why can't there be more unabashed love going on? why are cold pricklies to be preferred over warm fuzzies?

I stay away from making friendly insults. The line between teasing and serious for me is very thin, and while I'm not usually insulted/hurt when friends use friendly teasing on me, I can't make make friendly insults without feeling like I'm actually being mean. Maybe, if I thought it was important to be able to tease in that way, I could learn some guidelines for what kinds of friendly insults are appropriate and when they're appropriate. But I don't see any reason that that's a skill worth learning. I don't want to hurt people, and the easiest way to avoid hurting people seems to be to avoid friendly insults altogether.

I don't understand how friendly insults work as a friendly/bonding thing. It makes no sense to me at all. I recognize that apparently for many people they do, but it's very strange to me.

I think a lot of that is just some kind of "club" mentality so the "uncool" people can then be ignored or even cast aside completely.

I often engage in that sort of behaviour with others, mainly because I find that people are attracted to that sort of persona, and it makes me seem humorous and confident. It's very rare that I end up crossing the line, but it has been said that I'm quite a hypocrite in doing this, because I take can take it far too personally when people make jokes at my expense...

I am very good with telling if somebody's making a friendly insult, and when they're seriously insulting me. Once my friend wanted to buy some biscuits to share and she asked me if I like this sort and that sort, and I kept saying no, and in the end she laughed and said, ''you're a fussy cow!'' but I knew she didn't mean it seriously, so I laughed aswell. I must have a cell in my brain what is able to register what things said to me was acceptable or not.