Is it wise or bad to tell people you have asperger/autism

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Most dont know asperger so is it bad to say you have autism

for example:

AT work people always saying hes qo quiet, why you never talk, do you ever get any girls, what you do at weekend, Why you never go out. One dude saying Ill gorw up to be alonely old man if I dont go out with people and stuf..WTF!! ! I like being alone to do my own thing I cant stand being aroudn people. Old and alone but not lonely. Loneliness is a state of mind. I feel more lonely at a party with noone to I get on with or a bunch of drunks than at home alone.

Ive been working here a fe wmonths now and I feel like just saying next time they on at me about not going out, not getting sex, being a loner etc...Ill just say well I have slight autism so I prefer to do my own thing.

Or something along those lines.

It will shut them up and they may or may not know what autism is but it will get them off my back and excuse my sometime sintroverted moody behaviour and sulken/bored attitute I sometimes show

I'm going through exactly the same things. When people say those things about me now, I want to respond that I have AS. I haven't yet. Only mentioned it to one or two people at work so far. I have a desire to let people know that there is a reason why I am the way I am. At the same time, I don't want anyone to know. If that makes sense. I guess I don't want them to treat me any differently.

well when I was young I wanted to be cool and waht not so you dotn go want to say I am mentally ill or wahtver. I never even knew off aspergers.

But now im older I cant be bothered with all their talk and no doubt doubt gossip. SO then I stcik to myslelf and they dislike me for bieng distant and not fun. I make an effort and they realise Im not quite normal.

So, if I just say like na I dont liek going out I got autism. they can either just let me be (if they even know what autism is)

I have learned it is better to tell them you are high functioning autistic because most people have never heard of Aspergers. Also if you don't tell them they will come up with all types of reasons why you are so weird and let me tell you every reason they come up with will be a bad one. People like being as*holes to people who stick out. They will make stuff up that sounds funny or that make you sound like your insane or worst. So its better that you take control of the situation instead of letting them come up with reasons why act the way you do.

Disclosure of your autism is entirely up to you. I personally do disclose my autism where necessary. If I am alone in public and I start to struggle and act odd then people start acting like 'why's she doing that?' then I might find a person of authority and tell them I have autism so that they don't think I am deliberately misbehaving or are dangerous or something. If I am merely on my way home though I keep quiet. I do carry an alert card with me as well.

well yeh its catch 22

1. I hide my autism by acting quiet and stick to myslef

Result: They dislike me, always talk bad to me, think im arrogant/conceited

2. I try to be social

Result: they take fool out off me as I act and say weird stuff and come across as a bit odd

3. I say something like I have asutism. But dotn fully explain or go inot detail just a small comment. Man you always so quiet...''I got autism or sum sht.''

Result: ????? I act quiet or weird hopefully they stop caring and ignore me.

I don't tell people about my AS. They don't need more ammo to use against me.

"Im not lonely now, why would I be lonely when I'm old?"

good answer lol

I was gonna say loneiliness is a state of mind you can be lonely in a crowd

I am lonier around peopl lol cant wiat to get home

I think it's a very bad idea to wear it on your sleeve because it will come across as pathetic. When people confront you about why you're "different" it's okay to explain that you have autism, but it's always best to avoid portraying yourself as a victim.

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If you've mentioned it to one person at your workplace, it's not a secret any more. I would never do that. But, I may be a bit paranoid here.

This dichotomy with telling it or not is familiar to me. As yet, I've told it only to my immediate family and two of my closest friends. Since I don't think people around me are tolerant enough in this county where I live, I wouldn't go further. The result itself is quite unpredictable.

What I feel is that it's better to be seen as a "normal" person, as far as it can go, even if it means excessive compromises. Usually I let people think about myself what they wish. I'm not bothered if I'm being laughed at. I try to be kind with everyone, even when I hold them a grudge. Now I'm even more concerned about it than I used to before my first aha moment with AS. I've put up with turning down people trying to help me socialize more. I avoid flat refusal though, whenever I can. Sometimes I would accept an invitation, at least I'm not denying it by principle.

What I believe is that if your symptoms are obvious enough that people take note of them it might be a good idea to at least let someone in charge know. Letting your peers know depends on what they're saying about what they see. There is a large risk in disclosing it.

Personally, I've found that mentioning my diagnosis in settings where my behaviour attracts other people's attention is the best thing to do. They seem to become a lot more tolerant when they realise that your quirks are the result of 'a problem', rather than just plain old weirdness. Sad, I think, but it does the job...

The only time I am alone is when I'm away from my pets

So much so that I'm willing to find a night time job so I can spend time with them during the day (their birds)

I think it's time they update the DSMV loner = madmen.

Also "fun" can be anything you want it to be my Gp says what do you do for "fun" I said "video games" he says don't you want to do things that are more 'fun" and productive I think that's code for get a GF I say "no" his a little dumbfounded , still a great guy even his very NT at times I think his parodying them

My personal opinion is that it's a good idea to tell people unless there is any chance of it turning into a rant about how you hate yourself and envy everyone else.

Really, nobody likes hearing others' life woes. Hence, if you let it out, for the love of gods, be concise.