how far do a bully have to go before the school see it .

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i just came across this and got upset.

http://www.essence.com/news/hot_topics_ ... s_hair.php

It seems that bullying these days is only acknowledged when someone gets killed. Either the bullies kill the victim or drive her/him to sucide or when the victim eventaly retaliates and kills the bully.

It was funny bullies would mess with me sometimes infront of teachers and they did nothing to stop it. When I defended myself against a bully they would freak out throwing the book at me. I guess if your different or a little odd your expected to take abuse but god help you if you defend yourself from some NT bully. I guess they figure the bully has a better chance in society while the odd kid will eventially be a burfen on society. at least that how I see their logic.

Wow, even five year olds aren't innocent anymore.

Yeah I always got in trouble for defending myself. I still do these days and I am seen as the bad guy for it. I call it sticking up for myself.

Wow, I was lucky then I wasn't picked on that way. The bullying didn't start for me till I was six and it was with kids in my neighborhood which was the teasing. Then it was worse when I was eight when I went to my new school. I was teased a little bit at my old school when I was six and seven. Maybe because I was in special ed so the kids left me alone since they knew I was in it but in my new school, I was in regular ed mainstreaming special ed like some other normal kids so of course I got picked on, even on the bus.

And I used to think me being bullied was bad but after being here for a few years and reading articles about it, I see mine wasn't bad and it was maybe mild. But it may have gotten worse if we stayed in Washington because moving to Montana stopped it. We lived in a small town and bullies stand out more. But the bullying was worse by the time I was in 6th grade and I suffered a nervous breakdown and wanted to kill myself and I was never beaten up or anything. Just teased and made fun of and harassed and sometimes I get spat at. So I was getting into lot of fights.

So maybe this bullying (being beat up and stuff) has gone on for ages but we never noticed because the media never made a big deal about it until I was in high school so it seemed new.

Oh yeah and my mother always punished me or scolded me if I spat at someone or did something bad at five years old. She even make me say my sorry. I teased my brothers in my early child hood and I would get yelled at or spanked or get put in time out for it. Sure I was just playing then but I never did any o that cruel stuff. More like jumping on them or grabbing them and squeezing them or scratching or pinching them because I was just playing and I didn't even know I was being mean and I enjoyed their reactions. Then my mother started to give me a taste of my own medicine since I never seemed to understand my punishments so she started doing my actions back to me just to show how it feels.

This makes me so sick, yet doesn't surprise me.

They should take those bullies who cut that little girl's hair and shave their heads infront of the whole school.

...I worry for humanity

Its painful to say this but people are right when they speculate that some of the teachers don't do anything about the bullying of the "different" kids because they figure they aren't going to fit into society anyway. Its like winking while telling the bullies that they should be nice to that "different" kid. Yeah, right. I was teased a lot in parochial schools and no one was ever punished because the girls who did it were popular. Now my teenage son with AS and a weight problem has the same thing happen to him. He hates school now.

The way I see it, Karma is coming to bullies.

Injuries that require emergency medical treatment, generally, or rape.

Bullying...yes...been there, done that.

When I was in the 8th or 9th grade, some guys I knew were playing keep-away with my umbrella. I got fed up with it and pushed one of them into traffic; he almost got HIT! they went and told the principal on me (woo woo woo). When I got called to the office, I told THEM to tell him what THEY were doing. The principal still said I was wrong, so I told him that if they do it again, I'll make sure that one of them gets hit by a car the next time.

Never happened again.

In my neighborhood, I had on-again-off-again, sometimey kids who would try to make me the butt of their jokes and stuff generally treating me like an outcast when they needed someone to pick on. Well, when I found other people to be around, they started whining that I stopped speaking to them or even acknowledging them. People would tell me I was being mean...I told 'em to P' OFF! I gained a reputation for being cold and uncaring.

BUT the result was that I was somewhat able to move on in life in that I learned that I didn't need their acceptance, nor that of anyone else who didn't care for me as a person.

Learning to survive emotionally in an NT world...SHEESH!! !!

Bullying is a massive problem that pervades all of humanity and it needs to stop being tolerated and start being cracked down on fully.
Teachers are pathetically impotent. Some would say go back to the days of physical punishment etc, but then you just have some teacher or parent who probably likes hitting their children or was brought up to think it was right.

Bullies should be stopped and educated, logically, about their behaviour.
If parents need to get involved, then that may be a good or a bad idea, as some parents may be the problem.

Of course, there is a point at which correction may be needed and I could never be a teacher because I would probably create a long list of bullies and find a hitman..