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I get really upset when people surprise me with gifts. I think I get pretty upset/panic when there's any kind of surprise, but usually I get mad at the people giving me gifts.

Does that mean people shouldn't give me gifts if they care about me?
Why do I get upset?
Is this true for other people?

Pissed off? No. Confused? If outside the context of family and a birthday or something I would be totally confused.

No, but I do get annoyed if someone gives me a book I don't want to read or ugly art.

I like gifts, but I hate gifts that I will never use and do not want.

I usually only get gifts on specific days, so they are rarely a surprise. I do not recall receiving surprise gifts in the recent past to be able to assess my reaction. If it's like my reaction to other surprises, I would guess "negative" even if I wanted it.

To be honest i love it. I rather dislike when the gifs is excepted. I still appreciate the gifs, but there is not surprise.

When I give a specific brand then yes.

I'm flattered if someone buys me a pack of Skittles, let alone something expensive, but I hate it because it's such an awkward social situation. Birthdays and Christmas are borderline torture for this reason, but it's even worse when it's a surprise.

*Someone hands me a gift*: "Here, for you!"

- "Why do I have a gift." *Pleasantly surprised"

IF (PRESENT = S***) {
*Bad pretense of appreciation.*
"Wow, thank you muchly"
}
ELSE {
*Genuine thanks*
"Wow, thank you muchly!"
}

In both causes I don't believe I convey the desired emotion correctly and in the former case there is probably immediate disappointment on my face that they cannot fail to miss.

I'd rather receive money than gifts. I know that I will like the things that I would purchase with the money I receive.

Pissed off? no. Confused and unsure as to how to respond? definitely.

I feel uncomfortable getting surprise gifts - I would say possibly pissed off by surprise gifts I dislike.

For example a partner gives you something that you dislike - you are upset that they don't know you better perhaps to the point where you're a little hurt and mad that they don't know you as well as they should, guilty that you're not more grateful of getting a nice gift from someone, anxious and uncomfortable about having to act like you like it, thrown-off by the surprise as well as feel anxious about the surprise at first as you don't know what's coming, all these emotions together make you feel confused and if anything like me...angry.

I dislike surprise gifts for Christmas or birthdays, this I can tell you for sure - if I'm going to have X amount of money spent on me I want to know that what's bought for me is going to be something I want or need, it's an excuse to get something I want, so although surprises can be nice sometimes I much prefer to plan what people give me as gifts. I'm controlling like that

There was a time I would have spent days agonizing over the exact Meaning of the gift and more days wrestling with the fact it didn't suit me. Now I just see it as a normal life occurence to receive surprise gifts. I am grateful to be remembered, thank the giver, make a suitable fuss over the gift, and sometime later discard it quietly if it isn't to my taste.

While I enjoy getting gifts, I don't like surprises. I don't like being put on the spot. Then I have to think about recipricating. Which brings on anxiety.