Parallel Play, Tim Price anyone read this??

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I just finished the book about 24 hours after I first picked it up. It is Tim's story of growing up with undiagnosed aspergers.
Not sure if it offers any great or deep insight in to AS in a general sense though I certainly found that many parts sounded like sections of my life. Not to mention I grew up as the undiagnosed Aspie son of a Uconn professor as well, only I was in the next town over from Storrs. (so i know all of the places he mentions).

I hevan't but i definitely will!

You mean Tim Page?


Yeah. I enjoyed reading it. It made me feel better about certain parts of my life and the life of one of my siblings. No real suggestions in terms of living life with Aspergers, but that's not really the point of the book.

Ahh the sad truth i did think to go get the book to doubke check that i got hisname right.
Guess i should have.

In anycase he tells the same lsd and thc infused story of adolecents that i had. And oddly enough in the same area i grew up in
Does little to give insight (unless u were an NT) but i often found myself reading a page and then recalling a similar experince or just that momentary flash that we so rarely get that someone else really gets it thd same way u do. Love his comment about how quicklt his shrink assumed that "furtive eyemovments" were not relavent. Kinda link my shrink who thinks aspies dont feel emotions. Tried to explain the dif between the mask we show and what lay benieth but he didnt seem to get it.
In any case worth reading but prob not worth buying in hardcover.

Ahh the sad truth i did think to go get the book to doubke check that i got hisname right.
Guess i should have.

In anycase he tells the same lsd and thc infused story of adolecents that i had. And oddly enough in the same area i grew up in
Does little to give insight (unless u were an NT) but i often found myself reading a page and then recalling a similar experince or just that momentary flash that we so rarely get that someone else really gets it thd same way u do. Love his comment about how quicklt his shrink assumed that "furtive eyemovments" were not relavent. Kinda link my shrink who thinks aspies dont feel emotions. Tried to explain the dif between the mask we show and what lay benieth but he didnt seem to get it.
In any case Tim has evedently beaten me to the punch on writing the story of an undiagnosed aspie being raised in my local area. Perhaps mine would have to explaine how growing up in a world where i spent more time talking to professors and grad students allowed my AS to slip under the radar entirely. Or at least untill i became the one looking.

That's where you've got to set that guy on the bench and get someone else. Kind of like you're the head coach of an NFL team. You're not necessarily firing the guy, don't need to make a big deal about, but you are sitting him on the bench.

i think PARALLEL PLAY is maybe the best book I've read by someone who self-identifies as Aspie

I remember the very poignant story Tim tells about the truck crash and his fellow student who died. The driver was a decent guy, it was minor iritation over vague stuff. yes, he was going too fast, but my God, these catatrophic consequences. and experimenting with drugs and alcohol was a common part of growing up (not so much for me, I had my Christian phase, then my golden period, then my hypochondriac phase, but I'm no longer so against people who use drugs, I kind of wish there was a safer environment, and safer drugs to use). And the kid who died was also a thorougly decent guy. Tragic all the way around.

It certainly ads some poinenincy when u have driven on hunting lodge more times than u can count. Or even remember the old guy who usec to walk down 195.

On the issue of setting the guy st8
Short version i went to a diff shrink to get cinfirmation on my self dx. However the shrink i was going to before then over billed me so i have not had tomake a copay in 5 visits. (i kinda regard shrinks as glorified drug
dealers in case u hadnt guessed)
But in any case the subject came up as hd was telling me about the pasding of a friends father (the freind being an attorny who has AS) and how he was more upset about it then his friend.
I kinda look at it as an oppourtunity to educate the guy. ( that and let him know that dispite having piss poor social skills and having never met his friend, that i knew his freind better than he did

I read it about a year ago (maybe longer, can't remember.) I can't really remember much about it, but I know that I didn't dislike it.

Okay, so you're 34, so your adolescent years were in the late 80s, early 90s. Just about a generation after Tim and that's almost perfect.

Kind of like ARMAGEDDON and DEEP IMPACT came out the same summer and both were good movies (I liked them at any rate, and I know they're not perfect), and I think that kind of thing happens all the time.

(I sometimes find writing hard, sometimes find it easy)

Okay, so you were seeing a shrink to confirm your self dx.

On the subject of psychologists, psychiatrists, mental health professionals, etc, I'm not exactly a big fan of them either! I have found them to be prima donnas, "be righters," egotists, dogmatists, etc, people who love to expound on their pet theories, people who love to hear themselves talk, etc, etc. They're not so much seeing you a real human being right in front of them, as much as they are seeing a pet theory.

Now, on the subject of depression . . . which I sometimes struggle with, but have not taken medication . . .

I have read some and one thing that surprises is that something like Zoloft might work great for some people, so-so for others, and hardly do a thing for still other people. It’s just that human biochem is subtle, complicated, different for different individuals, and no doctor can predict in advance. (And with some antidepressants, it’s also important to phase down the drug in relatively slow stages.)

Treating depression can be hit or miss (2009 article)
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt163505.html

And since it is trial and error, neither me nor anyone else is stuck with a psychiatrist for the treatment of depression. A person can certainly stay with one if he or she feels that they are pretty good. But a person can just as well see a ‘regular’ doctor such as an internist or a family practitioner. A person tries one antidepressant, and if that doesn’t work, try a second, 3rd, 4th, 5th, and it might be the 6th one which is in sinc with your particular biochem, and that’s really all there is to it.


(Treating an anxiety disorder might be similar, or it might not. I just don’t know.)