Seeking diagnosis as a teen...w/o mom and pop?

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Sooooooooo.
I think I have Asperger's. For a number of reasons.
Thing is, I can't tell my parents. I just can't. My dad's a verbally/past physically abusive bastard, my mom is a pushover who never hears what I'm trying to say. Neither of them would even take me seriously. And if they did, they would call me stupid for trying to pretend I am autistic.Just trust me with this one.
So, the last week of school i went to my school psychologist who knows some about ASD.BUT she was more or less useless. It was the hardest thing i've ever done, trying to open up to her. I've gone through years of being suicidal, but never sought therapy merely because I couldn't handle/didn't know how/ couldn't function if i tried to tell anyone. Even now nobody knows about that. So that sucked. I mean, I could wait for school to start again, see the psych there (who doesn't usually give diagnosis, according to her. she also has less experience, it seems, with Asperger's than I had hoped.) HOPE for some sort of diagnosis and then, if it ever got that far, tell my parents and go from there. They aren't going to hear a thing about it until I have a professional who willl vouch for the autenticity of my ailment. Otherwise, I guarantee you i will be the butt of every family joke for the rest of my [at that hypothetical point in time, probably self-induced short] life. I'm not kdding about this whole family thing. I tried to tell my sister, who has a number of her own problems, and got s**t for it for weeks after. I was humilated and have never felt more betrayed by some one i felt remotely close to.
I want a diagnosis in order to know that i'm not just living my life wrong, and that there isn't something wrong with me. Learning that so many of these symptoms unique to Asperger's that I have has made me feel...almost happy in knowing that it [potentially] isn't my fault that I've never had a relationship with another human or that I don't act the way i'm "supposed to".
Is there any way I can find a psychiatrist who will treat me, or at least hear me out, without my parents knowing? I mean, they do it for Planned Parenthood, why not for this? I can't find anything in my area...but...please help.

Have you considered asking your parents to send you to a psychologist for your depression? Then you can bring it up with that psychologist and it would be completely confidential from your parents. If you are feeling suicidal, you should definitely see someone for that.

Yikes, so sorry about all you are going through right now!

How old are you?? Unfortunately it might be difficult to get a diagnosis without your parents if you are young. I am 27, and I am having trouble going through the full assessment without my parents. Also it can be very expensive, so unless you have a job or some other money that is yours, you might have to wait until your a little bit older if you are unable to speak to your parents about it. They are usually more than 1000$, sometimes more than 2000$.

Hmmm...do you have a teacher you are close to that you really trust. Or maybe even your family doctor if you trust him/her. If you are in public school, you may be able to get a psychoeducational analysis done for free (at least in Canada you can...might not work that way if you are in the USA). Again though, I don't know if they can do that without your parents' knowledge/permission.

Good idea!

first off, your depression, if it is that, sounds situational. i can't see why you'd be happy in that situation. if your situation changes, will you be happier? probably. don't go on dope.

stay away from psychiatrists. In my experience they don't know what the crap they're doing. psychologists on the other hand can be productive if they're good.

seconds off try this

http://www.grasp.org/

http://www.grasp.org/res_th.htm

and this

http://www.grasp.org/res_di.htm

and especially this

http://www.grasp.org/res_sg.htm


also realize that unless your one of these hoity toity rich farts then your life is probably going to be hard. learn to enjoy the good and push through the bad in hope of the good, even if your whole life is presently bad. no point in dying early. that's going to happen anyway. might as well see what happens while you get to that point. it can be interesting.

I agree with the advice to see a psychologist rather than a psychiatrist. Many of us have had nightmare stories with psychiatrists.

Agreed. Psychiatrists suck. They think that meds are the answer to all problems.

WOW did i even use the word psychiatrist in my post? I DON'T THINK SO.

I'm not going to go for depression, it would be the exact same situation. i don't even want medication, so stop telling me not to go on any.
dammit now i'm back where i was before I even knew asperger's existed.

THANKS

Holy--you don't have to get so angry for people trying to HELP YOU! You're welcome! Good bye!

And before you get all rude to everyone who is just trying to help, perhaps you want to reread what YOU wrote:

Is there any way I can find a psychiatrist who will treat me, or at least hear me out, without my parents knowing?

Actually yes, you did use the word psychiatrist in your first post. Check towards the bottom of it and you'll find it.

As for the way you've reacted to other people's insights, that's not cool. I'm beginning to think that perhaps you're just a troll or something. littlelily613's right, why should we try to help you if all you're going to do is through it back in our faces?

there's no sense in any of this over reaction. everyone should just calm down and get back on topic.

I'm sorry, this is very frustrating for me. For years I've wondered what's wrong with me and I finally get a hunch and have no where to go with it.
I'm sorry.

I didn't realize i had typed psychiatrist, that was a typo. I do in fact understand the difference.

It's all good, I don't hold grudges. And I probably overreacted myself, by virtue of calling you a troll.

It's hard not having a label. And it's even harder when you think you're on the verge of having a label only to not be able to confirm it. I can't say I've had this problem because I've had the aspie tag since I was seven, so I'm not in the greatest position to give advice. All I can say is that if you feel that this is what fits you then go with it. Just be certain that there is absolutely no other fit for your symptoms or otherwise you're going to have to get back on that rollercoaster again, and from what you've described it's not a pleasant ride.

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Personally I don't think I overreacted.

Best of luck in whatever happens. I don't know how else to help, so good bye.

there are just so many things that fit Asperger's...the way i've always whisper repeated things, my lack of sympathy even in the times of death, my complete lack of and inability to form relationships, even little friendships (plenty of friendly aquaintances, though), the way i'm often slow to process things that have just been said to me, so much so that when i do attempt conversations, i respond with what must seem to be bizarre unrelated comments, because i don't process what was said to me until minutes hours or days later, and thus never have legitimate responses. I always thought that maybe i was bipolar or something because i was always so easily upset. when i was little i would sob for hours if plans were changed on me or someone broke a tiny promise. i feel awful when i wake up because everything and everyone seems really loud to me and i don't know why. I constantly meltdown in "normal" situations, and i still don't wear some clothes because of they way they feel. there are so many things that just...fit.

what's worse is I'm afraid i'll lose my job, the one place people sort of accept my weirdness, because i mess up so many orders when i don't quite catch or thoroughly process what a person says or because i'm constantly dropping everything or because i can't remember basic recipes or because because because.
And i'm very intelligent and understand all my schoolwork, but i've had horrible grades for the past two years from this depression. I want to learn and do but I could literally NEVER feel motivated to try the homework, which has dragged my grades down. I take rigorous courses usually, because i want to gethhte most out of it, but it's so bad now that I'm finally cheating myself next year by taking slacker courses I need scholarships or else i'm screwed for life and stuck living in this hell hole depending on the man that has made my life a living hell, but i seriously have like a 3.0 GPA right now so even being considered by my choice colleges is a stretch.

i just...sfdagsahfdg.