Being Considered Rude and Disrespectful

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How many people who have autism on any broad band of the spectrum, are often mistake as being rude or disrespectful when you were trying to be sincere? Or here is another question: How many people who have autism on broad band of the spectrum get easily overwhelmed when sick or tired and try to explain to someone why something upset them? Is that sometimes mistake as being rude or disrespectful too?

[this is my control thread. I need a good enough amount of answers to prove to some people that this is a common thing within in autism. I was recently banned from a non autistic site. and am trying to make an appeal that I wasn't trying to be rude or disrespectful.]

It's very easy to be misinterpreted as being rude or disrespectful when we're trying to be honest. The reason for this is that we are often so brutally honest with what we say that we forget to butter up the offended individual up before unleashing the truth. And when we are in such a worked up state we are even more likely to forget to prepare the offended person for a dose of the truth. The important thing to note is that we don't realise we are offending the individual and when we do we are often very mortified when we do.

I think you may need to explain how horrified you were to learn that what you did was offensive, or at least say that you were horrified. Lying is a lot easier to do on the internet than in the real world

lol.

Not a helpful comment. If I showed them this thread and they see something like that.....yeah.

There is also the point that some people will try to shame you into thinking you're being rude and disrespectful when you're not being that at all, you're just saying something they don't like. There is a difference and it helps to know which is which and, if necessary, to have the courage of your convictions.

i have been told often that i am "rude". i do not fully understand the definition of "rude" except for that it means to "cause offense". people are offended at all types of things. they are offended by "slights" to their expectations mainly.

i can not influence peoples ideas of whether i am "rude" or not, so i do not really process that aspect of things. i just wind up bewildered (but otherwise uninjured) by the unexpected ejecta from "explosions" in the minds of people who's wits can not tolerate how i behave with respect to their personalities.

This is one of my biggest fears. I got these accusations a lot in school. My anxiety can make me display rude behavior and when I was 12, the staff often thought I was disrespectful. Their idea of me being that was me taking out a book and reading while the student teacher was teaching the whole class while the other kids were goofing off in their seats talking and throwing things.

I find that people have their own standards on what is rude. Whatever they don't like is "rude." So that means I can make up my own standards on what is rude and what isn't.


Now I get told I am just honest. I don't even realize I am being "honest" or "blunt" because there are lot of things out there I wouldn't say and I still get those labels. If I make people laugh, I wonder if I am just being funny or saying the wrong things.