birds of a feather?

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Just looking for a general response . . .

Do you find that Aspies get along better with each other than with NTs? Or does it depend on the "type" of Aspie? Do Aspies manage to "find" each other?

I think that people with shared experience and perspectives get along better with each other, and those who stand out (or seem to almost disappear) in a crowd tend to find each other.

I tend to get along better with people who are "different" and know this about themselves--this might just be because they aren't as inclined to avoid me, reject me, or make fun of me if I can't act normal around them.....and I'll give anybody a chance with no concerns about what's normal or not--I'll accept people as they are.

A societal "outsider" (I think--this can't be a universal rule or anything and of course I could be wrong) is more likely to give another outsider a chance...to offer an opportunity for "getting to know each other"....than a person who has no trouble fitting in and is afraid of or can't understand anything but what's "normal" or "how people should be"....

Yeah, I'd consider that true...

I can imagine other aspies would get along with each other tho its not necessarily something I've personally witnessed.

Do other aspies manage to find each other?

I wouldnt know, aspies are a rare species so with only 1 out of several hundred, its not easy with the odds. I've known 3 other aspies in real life. One was in my school, we didnt talk to each other that much before we both found each other in a aspie group so I dont think that counts as "finding each other". 2nd aspie is tries to talk to everyone. 3rd aspie well im suspicious that hes really aspie. He claimed to but he could have been just some dumb NT lying trying a some dumb method to get me to be his gf. He was a bit ackward and told me he had behavioral problems as a teen so maybe

I have a fair amount of friends now, and only 2 aren't NT. One has Autism, and one has another NL disability but I don't know what it is. I met her in college, and the tutor sort of told me what disability she had, but I can't remember what she said. I know she didn't say AS.

But my NT friends are easy to get on with, and they're aren't odd people or anything. They're just ordinary NT people, with average social skills, ect. But they are older than me - the only 2 friends who are my age are the ones who are not NTs, so I guess that explains something to do with maybe me finding it difficult to get along with NTs of my age, but older NTs I am fine with.

Seems reasonable to me that aspies would get along better with each other.

But I also bet that if two aspies didn't like each other it would be exhibited with alarming intensity.

All of the other potential AS people I've ever met just annoyed and bored the tears out of me. This one boy who runs around all over town supposedly has AS but he dosen't have a mean bone in his body whereas I'm ready to kill if someone so much as looks at me. I told my parents I doubt he is truely AS and they said I probably have something in addtion to autism. I read on here a couple of times that people with AS have trouble sticking up for themselves and are easy targets. I was an easy target but I would always retaliate against my bullies physicaly.

Whenever I talk to people, I feel very bored if I am not talking about my obsessions and lately I just want to keep my obessions to myself.

I, myself, have not met very many aspies, or potential aspies, even. I tend to get along with NTs better than the aspies that I have met. I have met about five other aspies. One of them I got along with quite well, another I only met once, but she seemed nice enough. There was another one that I got along with all right, but I couldn't see us being best friends or anything. I didn't get along with the two others very well at all.

There are no others aspies or people with HFA that I know of at my school, most of the kids with autism seem to have moderate or low functioning autism. I like most of those kids. There is one girl that I really don't like at all, but she doesn't have autism as far as I know, she has an intellectual disability. I don't think it has anything to do with that though, she is just not a very nice person.

I know one other person with AS, he's by far the most interesting person I know.

I know two people with LFA who are also good friends, and I find it much easier to get on with them because they demand much less of me than most people.

I have a friend who has HFA, and I do get along with him, but I can't really be around him for too long because I find his personality a little blank, and often he randomly goes into a world of his own when I'm trying to have a general conversation with him, and I then find I'm talking to myself. Then when I see an NT, I see it's a world of difference.

Even though I'm Aspie, I am literally alert all the time. The only time I ''switch off'' is when I'm on my own, but doesn't everybody?

in my experience, aspies who do not know of their aspergers and meet another aspie who do not know of their aspergers tends to be in the extremes of like or hate. I know many AS people in real life, they get on my nerves very easily and I on theirs - stress being a big issue, two or more aspies feeding off of each other stress is a recipe for disaster

I am more compassionate towards an AS person because I know of AS(even if they are rude, yell at me or others, are being perceived as an Ahole by everyone around me), my own limitations, and conscious of that AS symptoms differs for every person with AS, but I happen to know about AS and how to minimize the negative impact of my own AS on others.