feeling childish

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*sigh* With Aspergers I always feel childish or like I'm being treated like a little kid. I'm 16 and it disturbs me alot. I always feel like people are looking down on me too. It' makes me feel like crying.

Has anyone else had this feeling when it comes to aspergers?

dude your still a kid don't worry about it, be a kid while you can. enjoy it!

I have this friend who pats me on the head condescendingly sometimes, when she cnsiders something I did was childish. It makes me want to punch her in the face (partly because I hate it when they touch my head).
But I don't really think it's because of Asperger's.

Well you do tend to trigger womens maternal instincts a lot as a person with AS even if they dont know your Dx.. I just take it as a show of kindness and caring and forgive them for it.

Yeah, I get that a lot, and it pisses me off!

I was with my older - and taller - sister this week at a funeral. My cousins wife, who has ignored me on previous meetings, noticed me for the first time, and asked my sister if I was her daughter.

My sister is 52, I'm 46!

When we went to get a hotdog the guy offered me a lollipop!

This always happens when I'm with my sister. Fortunately I don't spend a lot of time with her.

Asperger people don't just feel childish, they also appear childish.

I had a problem with not wanting to be childish even when I was little. It was bad enough that I wouldn't participate in school assignments I didn't think they were dignified enough. I didn't want anything with a Dysney character on it either; I had a pair of Minnie Mouse socks that I refused to even touch. Maybe it has something to do with AS, maybe not, but until recently I was really hung up on dignity and taking everything seriously. Lately I've loosened up a bit, but it took a lot of practice and I still have trouble with it.

Yeah, it is hard being treated like a child, even when you are one.

Well, sometimes it's easier because you aren't stressed out by high expectations. On the other hand, it never feels good to be underestimated.

Yeah it doesnt feel good to be underestimated.. but it sure does feel good to blow their low expectations out of the water and excell then rub it in their faces and laugh maniacally

Like the first day of 1st grade:
Teacher: Let's see, children, who knows a word that starts with A?
Ben: Apple!
Teacher: Very good! Paula (that's me), do you know any?
Me: Abstract! (maniac laughter)

You are dead right there Fraya. In my late teens and twenties I soon realised that this was the surest and quickest route to p****!! !

These days I have been told many times that I don't look or act my age, and although the p**** is not quite so frequent, when I do make out it is usually with girls around 15 to 25 years younger than me.

For me even when I was young and now 20 I still act as well as behave as a child. I still do it. Really I didn't care if I was being treated childish. It really depends for me on where I am. In a Mall or EBgames I act my age but at home or with my young cousins I behave younger than I am. Even my aunt treats me that way.

I was a very serious, grown up child and dispised anything 'childish' like water fights or roller skating etc. However now that i'm an adult(i'm 27) i find that i'm quite childish/naive. I have a poor understanding of things that most people my age seem to understand like mortgages, job applications, where to buy stamps, etc. And i often have to these things explained to me in detail, in order to understand them.
I think sometimes people to treat me as if i'm younger but then i do sometimes come across as being rather dumb....the two are proably mutually inclusive.

The first 20 years of my life were frittered away on nothing. My only accomplishment of note was graduating high school. So I feel like a child in that I don't know much about the adult world.

I feel like that sometime. I don't feel like MR Spock at all. I am very logical mined even for an aspie.

i've always felt both younger and older than my real age (now 22). I too had a friend in high school who would pat me on the head condescendingly. At the end of high school I was hanging out with some friends and was really happy and acting kind of silly, and the guy i had a crush on said "my god, you're like 10 years old, are you ever serious?" What he didn't know is that i was acting like that because i was happy, partly because he was there. I was and am actually more serious in a lot of ways than many of my peers.

when i was little i thought growing up would be the worst thing ever and that all my fun would end when i got older, so i swore i would never grow up. now that i'm supposed to be grown up i wonder if i ever will be. my peers are living independently, getting married, moving across country, taking jobs. I still like to play on swings, havn't had a serious relationship, and sleep with a blanky.

on the other hand, i think creativity comes along with being child-like, and having a unique and refreshing perspective on the world. i think i often see things and make connections that other people don't. I think a child-like mind is very important for creative thought.

I know.

But, contrary to what I guess you all think, we are all talked to like adults and I personally like that feeling.